Tear Down and Mend, Day 18
We all have walls in our lives.
Bricks of sin.
Wounds that fester and don’t quite heal.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married five minutes, five days, five months, five years, or fifty. Sin permeates your life and marriage. There are inevitably things you don’t talk about or avoid talking about because the pain is just a little too deep. There are inevitably things that one party or the other refuses to budge on, and they stick like cement between bricks in a wall that grows bigger every day.
Can you imagine what would happen if you kicked a brick and it shattered to glass? What would happen if you kicked down those walls and committed to mending the tears in your marriage? What if you smashed rotten sin with reckless and fearless grace?
How would your marriage look? Would it look radically different?
Walls that have taken days, months, and weeks to build don’t come down overnight. Even Joshua and the Israelites took seven days of intense marching, praying, singing, and noisemaking before the walls of Jericho fell. It took commitment with wild abandon, it took fearless faith in God, and it took the power of the Holy Spirit for those walls to come down.
Once these walls are down, healing can begin. Mending doesn’t happen overnight either. Mending the holes in your life and marriage take just as much courage, dedication, determination, and work as breaking down the wall in the first place, in fact, it may take longer.
Sometimes, it has nothing to do with what my spouse is doing. Sometimes the greatest obstacle to marital intimacy and unity is myself. Sometimes the greatest foe I have to face that’s keeping me from a thriving marriage is myself. Keep this in mind as you think about tearing down walls and mending tears in your life and marriage.
Most importantly, remember you already have precious grace in Jesus Christ. Your sins have already been nailed to the cross, washed away, and forgiven. Psalm 103:11-12 says, “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear (respect, awe, revere) him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions (sins, faults, mistakes) from us.”
Romans 8:35,37-39 says,
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
As you commit to breaking down walls, you already have victory in Jesus Christ, and as you continue to mend brokenness, you already have the love of God working around and for you.
I’ll leave you with the words of my favorite band, Switchfoot, and lines from one of their newest songs, I Won’t Let You Go. These are the words the God of the Universe speaks to you:
There ain’t no darkness strong enough that could tear you out from my heart
There ain’t no strength that’s strong enough that could tear this love apart
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