Day 17, Keep and Throw Away
Typically, I don’t do well with New Year’s resolutions. Does anyone actually keep them all the way through the year? I am told that having accountability, prayer support, and motivations can make a difference. Even so, I’ve tried all that and it just doesn’t work. I write a resolution in January and by March I’ve already quit.
However, if I write resolutions in the fall, I seem to do better. September, October, and November seems to be the season for renewal for me. This November, I invite you to join me in making resolutions.
When Adam and I first got married, like any newlywed couple, we had high hopes. What we didn’t realize is that our habits needed to change. We quickly learned that my “sleep until whenever” and Adam’s “play games whenever” habits weren’t going to fly if we wanted a happy, healthy marriage. It took us awhile to get into the habit of putting aside self and seeking what was best for the other. Throwing away “single life habits” seems like a bargain now when I think about all the wonderful things I have gained.
After a few years of marriage, it’s easy to get into old comfortable habits. It wasn’t until recently that Adam and I decided we needed to return to something we did when we were dating – dating. If there was one thing we wanted to “keep,” it was spending quality time together (and in our case, away from other people, outside our house). Dates don’t have to be expensive or elaborate. They can be a simple commitment to take a late autumn walk together on a Wednesday evening or a trip to Wendy’s to share a frosty float on a Saturday afternoon. The point is we are intentional, loving, and not-distracted.
We all have things, material, physical, relational, emotional, and/or spiritual, we want to keep and things we want to throw away. Colossians 3 gives us a good road map of things to “throw away” and things to “keep.”
Colossians 3:5-9; 12-17
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander,and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
What will you throw away and what will you keep in your marriage?
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