One of the Worst Days, Day 17
When you walked down the aisle on your wedding day, were you thinking about your worst days ahead of you? The wedding day is the fairy tale, right, but not the day you’re puking up your guts because you have the flu and your husband has to hold your hair back? You dream of starting your life together but not trying to start your car on the side of the road in a blizzard when he has a headache and you’re running on three hours of sleep.
Does anyone really think about the “for worse” part of “for better or for worse?” The “poorer” part? The “in sickness?” No one really thinks about the “worst days” when they get married. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married – five days, five years, or fifty-five years – I can guarantee that you’ve had good days, “better” days, and “worse” days.
Adam has seen me at my worst. I’ve had some downright ugly moments in our marriage like the time I got so angry I flipped our bed mattress, or when I retched my guts out over toilet bowls and trash cans all night long, or when I’ve railed on him because of our financial difficulties, or the times when depression has kept me from getting out of bed, Adam has chosen to love me each and every time. His patience, kindness, grace, and love makes me a blessed woman.
This is a picture of who Christ is. Romans 5:6-8 says,
When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.”
Marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church. Christ died for us, loved us at our worst, and gives us His best. I always think the Romans 5 passage would be a great one to read at a wedding because while a bride and groom is there to celebrate the best yet to come, I think it’s important for them to be reminded that while there will be hard days, the problems and trials will strengthen them if they choose to seek and imitate Christ together. The worst days don’t define your marriage – it’s what you do with them that does.
Romans 5:3-5 says,
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
I can honestly say that our worst days in our marriage have only made Adam and I stronger. We’ve undergone much stress, heartache, financial woes, emotional lows, and difficulties in our first few years of marriage, but we’ve grown deeper in our love for each other and the Lord because of it.
Today’s Challenge: Pick a verse of encouragement to read on your “worst” days. Write it down and memorize it, or keep it somewhere you’ll see it often. Think about the things that have gotten you through some of your worst days. Ask your husband what has helped him get through his bad days. Pray through your “encouragement verse” or Romans 5 for your marriage. Consider writing a letter of encouragement for your husband to read when he’s had one of the worst days, or put together a care package to pull out on the bad days.
Bible Passage: Romans 5
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Share with us: How do you prepare for the “worst” days? How do you respond on your “worse” days? Have the worst days made your marriage stronger?