One Flesh: Fragrant Love, Part 3, Day 15
Genesis 2:24-25 says, “A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”
Adam recognizes Eve is part of him – literally. Interestingly, God fashioned her from Adam’s rib, not his head (so she could rule over him), not his feet (so she’d be his footstool), but his rib (under his arm, protected, and near his heart, vital). When a couple is married, they are to become one spiritually, physically, financially, emotionally, and intellectually. This doesn’t mean that they don’t have their own unique personalities and that man and woman are essentially the same. God designed man and woman to be united and to strengthen and magnify one another’s unique makeup.
Sex is the most physical part of becoming one flesh. I think we get it backwards in the church. We spend so much time harping on “don’t have sex before marriage” and “don’t have sex outside of marriage” that we forget the middle ground – this beautiful physical union of man and wife and what that looks like in the context of the Gospel message.
The Gospel says we are loved; Sex is a picture of love.
Christ’s life, death, and resurrection is a beautiful picture of sacrifice. The relationship between a husband and wife is compared to this picture. Ephesians 5:32 calls it “a profound mystery.” In Ephesians 5:1-2, Paul writes we are to “follow God’s example… walk in the way of love just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”
Gospel Message: Six days before Passover (the day of Jesus’ death), Mary, sister of Martha and Lazarus, pours jar of perfume on the feet of Jesus and wipes His feet with her hair. The perfume was valuable and expensive. It cost Mary something to pour it on Jesus’ feet, but she generously gave Him her absolute best. Wiping His feet with her hair showed her tender devotion, great honor, and loving care.
Applying the Gospel to Sex: You, dear lady friend, are like the expensive bottle of perfume. When you offer up your body to your husband, you give him a precious, priceless, valuable gift that denotes your tender devotion and loving care. You honor your husband and your God when you engage in sexual intimacy. Ephesians 5:28 calls husbands are to “love their wives as their own bodies…” feeding and caring for them. Sex is a physical union, but also an emotional and spiritual nourishment and care. Sex is necessary for the health, growth, and good condition of the marriage. This is God’s design for sex – to be the ultimate sacrificial picture of devotion, tender love, honor, and care for your spouse.
Today’s Challenge: Make a list of all the things you need to ‘bring your A game‘ to the marriage bed – physical, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, etc. Plan a time (it doesn’t have to be today), free from distractions, both mental and physical, to make love with your husband. If you need suggestions, start with my post – Reclaim Sensuousness – from a previous challenge year, particularly the Take It a Step Further section.
Bible Passage: John 12:1-7
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Share with Us: How does the story of Mary open your eyes to the gospel message in the bedroom?