The Praiseworthy Wife, Day 30
I don’t consider myself a wife who is out of the ordinary. I don’t consider myself even halfway in step with the Proverbs-31 wife, but I think that’s the point. The point is we are Israel – we are “wrestling with God” to understand who He is, who we are, and how He wants us to live. The point isn’t to be perfect. We are made perfect by Christ in us. The point is to be praiseworthy.
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines worthy as “good and deserving respect, praise, and attention; having honor, importance, and value.”
You are good because of Christ who is good in you. You deserve respect because you are a daughter of the Most High, the bride of the King of Kings. You deserve praise because your actions glorify the Father in heaven. You deserve attention because you are your husband’s bride – and he is to love you as Christ loved the Church. You have honor because of God lifts you up. You have importance because the Lord of lords has chosen you to be His hands and feet to a lost and broken world. You have value because the Creator of the Universe chose you to bear His image. Talk about significance.
Your worth is in Christ Jesus. Because of your worth and significance in Christ, you are called to reflect Jesus in the world. You are called to live a worthy life. This is a subject the apostle Paul talks much about:
- In Ephesians 4:1, Paul urges believers to “…live a life worthy of the calling you have received-” to pursue unity and maturity in the faith (as the rest of the chapter expresses).
- In Philippians 1:27, he says, “Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ” – the teachings of our Christian faith, who Christ is, what He came to do, and what He has done for you.
- In 1 Thessalonians 2:12, he writes that he encourages, comforts, and urges (followers of Christ) to “to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into His kingdom and glory.”
- In 2 Thessalonians 1:11-12, he explains we are made worthy through Christ and God gets the glory… “that our God may make you worthy of his calling, and that by His power He may bring to fruition your every desire for goodness and your every deed prompted by faith. We pray this so that the name of our Lord Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.”
What does the worthy life look like?
Colossians 1:9-14 answers this:
“We have not stopped praying for you.We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light. For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.”
Worthy living is less about us and more about Christ. A wife who walks worthy of Christ needs
- consistent prayer – for herself, from her husband, from other believers, and the Holy Spirit who intercedes on her behalf.
- to be filled with the knowledge of God’s will (achieved through the study of God’s Word, the work of the Holy Spirit, and the preaching of the Word of God)
- wisdom and understanding from the Spirit
- to please God in every way – in her mind, heart, body, spirit, and will – to walk with Him in humble obedience
- to bear the fruits of the Spirit’s work in her through love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and discipline
- to grow in her relationship with God
- to be strengthened by His power so He may gain the glory
- to endure and learn patience
- to give joyful thanks to the Father
- to recognize she has been qualified through Jesus and she shares in His kingdom and will receive His inheritance
- to recognize she has been rescued from darkness and brought into the light to live in the light
- to see the love God has for His Son and His people
- to identify with her new name – redeemed
- to understand the need for forgiveness for her sins
When you seek to serve and love the Lord your God, you live in a praiseworthy manner. I think as women sometimes it’s hard for us to accept compliments, encouragement, and even attention from others, even our husbands, because we’re so afraid of being too proud and we forget our worth and significance in Christ. This is false humility.
You, darling of God, are a praiseworthy wife because you are seeking to serve and love your husband, to honor and glorify God, and to grow in your marriage and your walk with the Lord.
Accept these words of edification and encouragement in your heart today. This journey has hopefully brought you through a process of refining – perhaps not without pain, perhaps without visible results, perhaps without any gesture on your husband’s part – but God says any work done in His name is worthwhile and He will honor this desire in you. I leave you with these words:
“Be confident of this – that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6
All praise, honor, and glory to our Lord Jesus Christ as He continues to work in your life, heart, and marriage as you seek to wrestle with God and work out your faith!