The Wife Who Fears God, Day 29
This is such an important subject I felt it warranted another look at this verse: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 This post is a little longer than normal so bear with me. Thank you.
Does fearing God mean you’re running away from Him as if He’s a scary ghost or the Grim Reaper come to take your soul? No… and you’re running away from Him is a mockery because no one can hide from God (Does Jonah ring any bells?).
Does fearing God mean we walk around literally afraid of Him like always being on edge because you’re worried about a thunderstorm? No. This completely forgets the relationship we’re supposed to have with our relational God.
Understanding the fear of God and what this looks like in your modern life requires a certain amount of wisdom and discernment. The Bible tells you that if you seek, you will find; if you ask, you will receive; if you knock, the door will be opened. The Bible also tells you that if you lack wisdom, you have only to ask.
Matthew 7:8 says, “For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
Does that sound like a big scary God to you? This doesn’t mean God is a genie in a bottle either. If you’re expecting to find God does everything for you the way that you want, you are failing to see who He really is. The wisdom part comes from understanding who God is, what He wants from you, and who you are in God.
The wife who fears God seeks genuine relationship with Him.
“I love those who love Me, and those who seek Me find Me.” Proverbs 8:17
“You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13
Her relationship with God is a priority. She seeks Him first before she seeks to please her husband and in doing so, pleases God when she, in turn, honors and loves her husband. “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
The wife who fears God isn’t anxious about her future.
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” Matthew 6:25-27
Your anxiety reveals a small view of God, like somehow by worrying you can fix things and you don’t trust God to carry you. 1 Peter 5:7 reminds us that God does care, “Cast all your anxiety on him because He cares for you.” Zechariah 10:12 promises, “I will strengthen them in the Lord and in His name they will live securely,’ declares the Lord.”
The wife who fears God uses her words wisely and speaks gently.
Proverbs 31:26 says, “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” She knows that the tongue has the power of life and death. Her words are edifying, seasoned with grace, beneficial to those who hear, lack a bitter, angry edge, do not slander, do not intend malice or hurt, aren’t filled with hate, but are kind, compassionate, merciful, loving, and reflect Christ in her.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:29, 31-32
The wife who fears God is for her husband, not against him.
Proverbs 31:12 says, “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” All day, all the time, not just on Tuesdays or Fridays, not just when she feels like it – she does him good all the days of her life. She stands with him and not against him. She doesn’t seek to tear him down, belittle him, take away his manhood, take away his leadership, hurt him, control him, change him, use him, or break him. She works to live with him in unity, peace, and love.
Ephesians 4:3 says, “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Colossians 3:14 says, “Over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
The wife who fears God is strong.
This series has made it so much more evident to me that the Proverbs 31 woman isn’t a weakling. She isn’t mousy or lacking in confidence. She is her husband’s partner, not his doormat. Her strength comes from God.
- Walk with God in humble obedience, knowing you are walking against the world, but that you are equipped with the Holy Spirit and the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God. This makes you strong.
- Serve your husband, your family, and your community with joy, even when you don’t see the results of your work, even on the days when it is hard because all your work done in the name of Jesus is counted in the eyes of the Lord. This makes you strong.
- Love your husband through his good days and bad. Stand by him and support him when he fails. Forgive his flaws. Help him when he falls. Love even when every fiber in you is telling you not to and then love all the more. This makes you strong.
“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8
“If anyone obeys His word, love for God is truly made complete in them.This is how we know we are in Him: Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.” 1 John 2:5-6
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