The Humble Wife, Day 28
I don’t know about you but I have a hard time reconciling being beautiful and attractive for my husband and knowing that charms and beauty are deceptive because they are fleeting. What’s on the outside doesn’t always reflect what’s inside and vice versa. I believe the Proverbs-31 woman isn’t meant to trip us up or make us feel like we’ve got to wear potato sacks all the time and never wear makeup, jewelry, or fancy shoes. She is meant to illustrate the most important beauty of all – a humble heart.
“Many women do noble things,but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:29-30.
The humble wife recognizes what isn’t fleeting and pursues it passionately.
Micah 6:8 tells you to “…walk humbly with your God.”
Pursue God, live by His Word, show we are His by our love, and joyfully await the life that is to come.
The humble wife serves with a joyful heart.
God’s kingdom is here and now. His kingdom is the already-but-not-yet. John 17:3 says, “This is eternal life, that they know you the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent.” We are to be kingdom-minded women. But this doesn’t mean we don’t live in the here and now. A Bible study leader from college told me once to think of a waitress… She waits on tables. She serves. We also are to humbly serve God in the waiting, and through our service, grow deeper in our relationship with God and bring glory to Him.
Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait with hope for the Lord. Be strong, and let your heart be courageous.Yes, wait with hope for the Lord” (GWT).
Focus on serving God and advancing His kingdom in your day-to-day living. Be hopeful that your work here counts, no matter how seemingly insignificant it is. Your number one calling, following your relationship with God, is to be a wife. What a lovely calling! Serve your husband joyfully.
The humble wife admits weaknesses and strengths.
Being humble doesn’t mean being weak, but it does mean that you admit when you’re wrong and the areas where you need help. However, it also doesn’t mean you’re always down on yourself either. This is false humility. Low self-esteem is a form of pride, feeling like you aren’t worth much. True humility acknowledges an accurate view of strengths and weaknesses – stifling the urge to puff yourself up or tearing yourself down because of your own shortcomings. Confess when you’re wrong and ask for forgiveness and prayer and accept compliments when they come your way.
James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”
James 1:17 says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.”
The humble wife puts her husband first.
A woman who fears God knows the importance of the earthly man He has placed in her life – her husband. She doesn’t indulge in things that take away from her husband. Marriage unifies you. Godly marriage allows you to serve one another lovingly, putting aside selfish desires, bringing you closer together as a team as opposed to individuals.
“Do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” Galatians 5:13
The humble wife accepts advice from her husband.
Sometimes our husbands see things that we just don’t or can’t. Accept your husband’s counsel. When he tells you about something he sees in you – in your conduct, in your speech, in your friendships with others, in the way you spend your time or money, etc – pay attention.
Proverbs 19:20 says, “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”
Does this mean your husband is always right? No, and neither are you. However, God put you two together to equip, fulfill, and edify one another. Avoid defensiveness. Instead, test what he has to say against the Word of God, but consider what he has to say with a gracious, humble attitude.
The humble wife doesn’t look down on herself and she doesn’t lord over others with how great she is. Instead, she is focused forward on the path God has given her to follow with joyful humility, serving God and her husband in the waiting.
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