The Proactive Wife, Day 25

Day 25

A proactive choice is based upon values and sound judgement. A reactive choice is based on feelings, circumstances, and the environment.

The Bible doesn’t dismiss our feelings, but God does call us to be proactive. 1 Peter 1:13 says, “Prepare your minds for action…” You must be ready in any given circumstance to make decisions that reflect your relationship with God – reflecting godly values and the Holy Spirit’s presence in your life.

The Proverbs-31 wife is a proactive wife. She “watches over the affairs of her household” (vs. 27). Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines watch: “to look at something or someone for an amount of time and to pay attention to what is happening; to care for something or someone for a period of time in order to make sure nothing bad or unwanted happens; to keep a vigil; to be expectant.” 

The proactive wife is attentive to the needs of her household and what is going on around her. 

1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “[Love] always protects.” She knows her husband’s heart. She knows and even anticipates his needs. She cares to pay attention to the little details and is faithful in the little things. She guards her home, heart, and marriage from intrusive distractions and demands. She is aware of the effects of certain activities or people who drain life and energy from her family.

The proactive wife protects her husband’s heart.

Protect is an action verb – love demands action. The pro-active wife acts in a way that defends her husband, marriage, family, heart, and home. She protects them by remaining alert to the dangers instead of growing complacent.

Matthew 26:41 says, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”

The Devil will use anything and everything to “steal” your joy, “kill” your love and respect, and “destroy” your marriage. That’s why ladies, we have to be on high alert, to protect your home, marriage, and your husband’s heart.

The proactive wife is expectant by arming herself with God’s strength.  

This doesn’t mean she worries, but it does mean she prepares her heart and home for trouble, knowing realistically she will have trouble in this life. One of the best ways she does this is to pray and ground herself in the Scriptures.

Daily pray on the armor of God – on yourself, on your husband, and on your marriage! Be aware and alert of things that may harm your marriage. Watch for things that divide you and your husband and don’t let the Devil get a foothold.

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying…” Ephesians 6:18

No weapon goes to bat like the Sword of the Spirit. The Sword of the Spirit is indestructible! Take up this weapon daily. Fight off the Devil’s schemes by plunging yourself deep into God’s Word. When Jesus was tempted by the Devil in the wilderness, how did He combat it? By using Scriptures. I highly encourage you to take time to memorize Scripture in your daily walk with God so that in times of trouble and distress, you can call to mind the impenetrable Word of God as your defense.

’Not by power, not by might, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord.” Zechariah 4:6

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