The Trusting Wife, Day 22
I’m going to talk about a five-letter word today, a five-letter unpleasant word – worry. I believe as women we struggle with worry in a unique way because we are more emotional by nature, we battle insecurity issues, and we desire comfort and safety. I struggle with control issues and being a perfectionist. Why? Because deep down I battle with insecurity and I figure if I can control everything, then everything will turn out okay.
I shared this two years ago on the blog:
We all struggle with insecurity. We don’t feel like we’re good enough. We aren’t sure about our futures. We’ve been hurt before and we don’t want to be hurt again. I struggle with being in control. I like to know what’s going to happen. I like everything to go according to plan so when it doesn’t I tend to panic. I tend to become upset because I battle this inner desire to control things.
This is the exact issue Eve struggled with in the garden of Eden. She gave into her insecurity, her worries, and her fears. She desired to be in control, but she totally lost control in the process.
When Eve took of the fruit, she desired to be in control. How did God curse her? “Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you.” Adam may have failed her by not stepping up and stopping her, but Eve willfully chose to be in control instead of relinquishing control to God and her husband. Why? Because Satan preyed on her insecurity. He made her question what God had said, made her think she knew better. And when her eyes were opened, she did know better. She and Adam ran to hide from God, ashamed. She blamed the serpent when confronted with God because she didn’t want to admit responsibility. When we try to take over, we aren’t secure in God’s love or guidance.
The Proverbs-31 wife wasn’t perfect. I’m sure she worried at times. However, verse 24 says, “she can laugh at the days to come.” Another translation says, “she’s not afraid for her future.” When I think about the problems I’ve encountered in my life, I don’t immediately think to laugh. Why not? Laughter is a great way to break the tension, and we can laugh in the face of whatever the world has to throw at us because we worship a God who overcame the world.
Jesus says in John 16:33, “In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
The godly wife trusts God to help her. Ask God to search your heart for worry, anxiety, and fear. Psalm 139:23 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.”
The godly wife takes her worries to God. Dialogue with God regularly. Let go and let God. Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
The godly wife understands worry and fear are not of God. Claim in your heart that you have power over fear, that God loves you, and you have a sound mind, grounded in Christ. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
The godly wife trusts God’s provision. Matthew 6:25-34 says, “…do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
The godly wife knows who she is in Christ.
Romans 8:35, 37-39 says, “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
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How do you “laugh” at the days to come or stay positive about the future when you’re in a bleak, scary spot in life? How does knowing God is there and God cares help you to worry less?
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