The Honorable Wife, Day 20
We’ve been talking a lot about the Proverbs-31 wife, but today we’re going to talk about her husband. The Bible doesn’t say much about him, but it does say that he can trust her (vs. 11), he lacks nothing of value and she enriches his life (vs. 11), she brings him good instead of harm (vs. 12), and he “is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land (vs. 23).”
Her husband is respected by others, probably for several reasons. He is a man of integrity and influence. He is a man of God and he is a leader among the elders of the land. He also has an honorable wife who does him good, builds him up, and protects her husband’s good name.
Proverbs 22:1 tells us, “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”
You, dear wife, are in a unique position to uplift and protect your husband’s good name, and to bring him honor by living above reproach.
Honor him with your attitude.
- “A kindhearted woman gains honor…” Proverbs 11:16
- “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:15
- “Humility is the fear of the Lord, its wages are riches and honor and life.” Proverbs 22:4
- “ May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Romans 5:5-6
Honor him with your words.
- “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
- “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
- “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.” 1 Peter 3:10
Honor him with your actions.
- “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Philippians 2:3-4
- “Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.” Philippians 2:14-16
Honor him with your presence.
- “How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” Psalm 133:1
- “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.” Proverbs 20:5
- “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
- “For you were called to freedom, brother. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.” Galatians 5:13
Honor him with your body.
- “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
- “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine.” Song of Solomon 1:2
- “Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.” Song of Solomon 1:4
- “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The other day my mother-in-law was commending my husband for making such a good choice in a wife. Immediately, I felt that I didn’t deserve the praise because I fail so often, but my husband reminded me of a scene from the movie The Last Samurai. In the movie, Katsumoto, the leader of the samurai soldiers of Japan, has been searching for the perfect cherry blossom his whole life. In Japanese culture, the cherry blossom holds a high significance and value. Because the length of its bloom is so brief, the cherry blossom is a visual reminder of the beauty and brevity of this life. The cherry blossom is treasured as a beautiful symbol of the meaning of life. At the end of the movie, Katsumoto admits, “They are all perfect.” Adam reassured me that I don’t have to be perfect to be the best and most precious wife for him. You don’t have to be the perfect wife to bring your husband honor and to be the choice partner for him in life. You are perfect because God is perfect and He has given you a new name and a robe of righteousness.
“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:22-24
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How do you treasure your husband and bring honor to him? How do you protect his good name?
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