The Beautiful Wife, Day 19
The Proverbs-31 wife liked nice things, and she appreciated quality. Verse 22 says, “She is dressed in fine linen and purple.” The color purple denoted value, respect, and wealth. Pulpit Commentary says, “Purple garments were brought from the Phoenician cities, and were highly esteemed (see Song of Solomon 3:10; Jeremiah 10:9).” The Proverbs 31-wife wanted to be beautiful and to look her best for her husband.
The beautiful wife dresses her best. She is neat and ordered in her appearance. She chooses good quality clothing that is designed to last. She desires to and makes an effort to honor her husband through her appearance.
The beautiful wife is practical. I don’t know about you, but when it comes to clothing, accessories, and shoes I want to be comfortable. I will choose comfort over the cuteness factor more times than not. I believe it’s completely attainable to look nice and be practical. Choosing appropriately modest clothing, breathable fabrics, practically comfortable to wear is part of what the high-quality wife does.
The beautiful wife doesn’t give into the lie of false modesty. She doesn’t restrict herself by wearing dull, drab, plain clothing because she is too lazy or too self-righteous. God wants us to present ourselves in the best manner, and this includes our clothing choices.
I’m not going to get into is it okay or not to use cosmetics, wear jewelry, or braid your hair. This is a decision between you and God. All I will say is that we aren’t to draw attention to ourselves in a manner that hurts our Christian testimony, but we also shouldn’t place such extreme restrictions on ourselves that we are afraid to wear anything that is pretty. God created a woman to be beautiful. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look beautiful for your husband and to bring honor to him through your appearance. You took care to attract your husband in the first place and it’s unfair to him to neglect your appearance and make poor clothing choices now. An emphasis on modesty and spiritual things doesn’t mean you need to be homely in order to serve God. It’s possible to pay too little attention in addition to too much.
The beautiful wife shines beyond her attire. Her first priority is not her appearance, but her devotion to God. The beautiful wife is beautiful not because of the clothes she puts on, or the way she does her hair, or the kind of makeup she wears, but because of her gracious spirit, noble character, and her godliness. She does not neglect her spirit in favor of beautifying herself. She lives in holy moderation – without giving way into worldly, immodest, overindulgent standards of beauty and paying enough attention to glorify her Creator and honor her husband.
Psalm 45:9, 11, 13 says,
“Daughters of kings are among your honored women; at your right hand is the royal bride in gold of Ophir… Let the king be enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord… All glorious is the princess within her chamber; her gown is interwoven with gold.”
You are a daughter of the King, the Most High God. You are a woman of glory, honor, and beauty, and your clothing choices do matter. Enthrall your husband with your beauty and honor him in taking care of your appearance. Desire to please your husband.
Isaiah 61:10 says,
“I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God. For He has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.”
Remember your first calling, dear wife, and keep a kingdom perspective. A woman who gives into the charms of this world is deceived and pours all her money, time, and effort into following the worldly standards of youth and beauty is vain. However, a woman who fears, respects, and serves God with joy and delight will far outshine women of false humility and women of shallow pursuits.
Pursue depth, dear lady friend. Seek to serve and honor God and bring joy, delight, and beauty to your husband by thinking through your clothing choices, taking time on your appearance, neglecting the ostentatious trappings of this world, and considering your attitude behind what you wear.
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What process do you use to decide what to wear and what clothes to buy? How do you honor God and your husband by dressing beautifully?
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