The Fruitful Wife Day 11
From ancient times, wine and vineyards have played an important role in trade. Ancient Greeks used amphorae, tall jars with two handles and a narrow neck, to trade their wines. Because of their design, the Greeks were able to transport more jars aboard their ships this way, thus increasing profit. Ancient Rome, widely known for its unparalleled pre-industrial world trade, incorporated wine heavily into their culture. Grapes flourished in the ancient Hebrew climate and land, making vineyards a common source of income for many families, and played a part in culture. Jesus even used vineyards in His teachings, pairing them with lessons about obedience and fruitfulness. **
How many of you are planning to buy a field and plant a vineyard? I’m guessing close to zip. Proverbs 31:16 says, “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” How does this apply to the modern wife? Does this mean we all have to go out and buy land? Nope. However, there are still 3 things we can learn from this verse.
A wife of good character considers.
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines consider as: “1) to think about something or someone carefully especially in order to make a choice or decision, 2) to think about something that is important for understanding or for making a decision or judgment.”
The wife of good character thinks about her options before making a suitable decision. Proverbs 13:16 says, “Wise people think before they act.” She understands her actions have consequences – whether good or bad – and therefore she weighs her options carefully, looking for the best choice for not only herself, but her husband, her family, and often others around her (i.e. church, community, etc).
She doesn’t act on impulse or whim, but with after purposeful thought, filtering her decision-making process through God. We make decisions with our will – desiring something to be done and acting on it. The Bible specifically talks about loving God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength – with everything in you, including your will.
When you consider a decision, ask yourself: Does my choice reflect my love for God or my desire to please myself? Does my choice consider the thoughts, desires, intentions, and actions of my husband? Will this decision honor God and honor my husband?
A wife of good character is involved.
She isn’t clueless about money. This verse stating she buys the field shows that a godly wife of good character is involved in financial decision making and transactions. She doesn’t act independently from her husband, as his heart safely trusts her in verse 11, so she’s not running around making purchases without his knowledge.
I appreciate how Adam wants to include me in financial matters, even though this is clearly not my forte. He consistently checks with me before spending money, even on small purchases, and asks that I do the same. This is an area where I admittedly struggle because I often see things that I think would be nice for us or for others. However, I strive to keep Adam in the loop, and respect his decisions when he says no. I know if I don’t understand his reasoning, I can always ask, and often he has insight that I’m simply missing, or he remembers a bill that I’ve forgotten.
The fact that she considers before she acts suggests she shops around, looking for the best prices, and she seeks quality. Quality doesn’t always mean cheap, but she selects something within her budget that will serve as a beneficial long-term investment. Because of her commitment to excellence, she is a crown jewel, an uncommon woman, bearing much fruit in her faith walk, marriage, and life.
When you make purchases, ask yourself: Is this something we (or I) really need? Can I look somewhere else for a better deal? Is this something my husband will approve of?
A wife of good character is fruitful.
She doesn’t sit around expecting her husband or others to do everything for her. She doesn’t just tell others what to do, expecting them to serve her. Proverbs 14:23 says, “In all work there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.”
She carefully considers before making a commitment, understanding the work any endeavor will take. She has a willing heart She doesn’t just let the land sit, but she fruitfully works it with her own hands to produce something beneficial for her family. She wisely uses the resources God has given her.
In order to bear fruit, she stays connected to Christ, the true Vine, and rooted in God the Father.
Jesus says in John 15:4-5, “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.”
She doesn’t over-commit and she doesn’t try to do it all on her own.
I love what Sunny Shell writes on her blog, My Second Love. God created her with strong roots, but He “created her to still require a trellis (her husband)” much like the grapes in a vineyard in order “to stand tall and hold up her delicate branches so that her fruit is not trampled on, dirtied, or injured in any way.” Dear wife, you were created for relationship – to flourish in the love and light of Christ and to partner with and be supported by your husband so that you can be even more strengthened
When you consider a commitment to work, ask yourself: Will this override my commitment to my marriage and family? Will this produce something beneficial for my husband and family?
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