The Wife of Action, Day 7
It’d be so easy to skip over the words “she seeks out wool and flax” in Proverbs 31:13. Most of us modern wives don’t have the time to make clothes for our households. How does this apply to this challenge?
I did some research and came to a few conclusions appropriate for the modern woman:
The Proverbs 31 Wife is a woman of action.
The word following she is always an action verb no matter what the translation. She seeks (GWT, NKJV, ESV), she finds (NLT), she shops (MSG), she selects (NIV), she keeps (GNT), she looks for (NASB, NLV, NCV), she obtains (NET), and she chooses (NIRV). Verse 27 says “she does not eat the bread of idleness.” It’s safe to draw the conclusion that she actively seeks to serve God first and then serve and bring betterment to her household and marriage.
Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ” (ESV).
What a privilege it is to serve the Lord through serving others without the need for human recognition or reward! Now I’m not saying at all that it isn’t nice to be appreciated, and I certainly don’t think it’s biblical for your husband, kids, or anyone to take you for granted, but your primary purpose in life is to glorify God and enjoy relationship with Him. You didn’t sign up for this challenge for your husband to wave banners of glory above your head and praise you constantly. You’re doing this challenge to take action: to grow in your walk with the Lord and to bless and love your husband.
The Proverbs 31 wife seeks quality.
Wool and flax keep the inhabitants of the Proverbs 31 woman’s household clothed and warm. She seeks with care to find the best clothing for her family. Now the best quality doesn’t mean department store prices. You can shop at thrift stores and yard sales and still glorify God in your clothing choices. Quality means choosing your selection carefully – considering the durability, price, and necessity of an item. As a wife (and possibly a mother), part of your job as a homemaker (even if you work outside the home) is to make sure your family is clothed. Choosing modest, comfortable, practical clothing and living within your budget are all important when you decide on the quality of your clothing.
The Proverbs 31 wife cares for her home.
This seems like a given, but she cares for her household. There is nothing wrong with working outside the home. Many households need two incomes. However, the man leads and provides for the household and the woman cares for the home. A woman’s primary responsibility is her home.
This is an area where many women, myself included, struggle. “I’m too tired,” “I’m too busy,” or “I don’t feel like it,” are often excuses I give for neglecting my household responsibilities – and I don’t even work all that many hours outside the home, nor do I have children that demand much of my attention.
Homemaking is one of life’s greatest callings.
Titus 2:5 tells us a wise woman is “to think before (she) acts, to be pure, to be workers at home, to be kind, and to obey (her) husband. In this way, the Word of God is honored” (NLV).
C.S. Lewis writes, “Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, ect. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? The Homemaker’s job is one for which all the others exist.”
Adam reminds me occasionally how much he appreciates how I take care of things around the home. I started thinking about it as I was writing this post, if I put as much of my all (my effort, time, attention) into housekeeping and homemaking as I did my job and my relationship with Adam, my home would be much neater, more manageable, and way more inviting.
Don’t be discouraged, dear wife. Your job at home is so important, and your husband (and children, if you have them) needs you.
Seek to please the Lord in all your work, find things for your hands to do when you’re bored, select activities that will bring you and your husband closer together, look for opportunities to grow, work to obtain the goals you have for your household and set new ones, and choose to love daily through all you do.
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How do you keep and manage your household? How do you build up your home? In what areas do you struggle being a woman of action when it comes to your home?
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