Words of Wisdom: Christ Is Our Center

Christ is our center

What’s the password?”

This is a little tradition my grandfather has. When we are nearing the end of a phone conversation, he’ll ask this question and wait for our response. Of course, the answer is always the same: Keep Looking Up! 

My grandparents have been married for 63 years. They have been an inspiration and a blessing to me. I decided to interview my grandma as I was sure she’d have some wonderful words of wisdom for me (and you, my readers).

Q. What do you believe is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in all these years of marriage?

A. The Bible says, “If we have love one to another” “By this shall all men know that you are my disciples.” (John 13:35) This is especially true in marriage. (When we dishonor our mates we dishonor God.)

Q. What role does being positive play in your marriage?

A. Being positive reflects ones faith in the promises and providence of God. Being negative shows your unbelief in the love of our heavenly father and his goodness to us.

Q. What role does being thankful play in your marriage?

A. This is a commandment God demands of us throughout Scripture. Here are a few references. Psalm 100:4; I Corinthians 15:57; Ephesians 5:20; I Thessalonians 5:18. His Word guides us.

Q. How do you stay positive and thankful during the tough times?

A. Romans 8:28 Assures us that, “All things work together for good to them that love God and are called according to His purpose.” God is Holy, loving, and all wise. He cannot err. We must know who He is and what He has done for us. That keeps us from despair and doubting when hard things come.

Q. How has making Christ your center helped your marriage?

A. Christ is our “center”. We strive to please Him in all that we say and do. He is always present and He never leaves us. This is a sobering truth.

Q. In what ways do you actively stay grounded in Christ together as a couple?

A. Our diet is the Word of God. It is an awesome thing to hold the Word of the Creator in our hands.

Q. What words of wisdom have encouraged you in your marriage?

A. Being saved by grace and mercy alone. It is nothing in my hands that I bring to God claiming some merit. And He gave me a new heart that desires Him and His righteousness. Plus the promise of eternal life. Without a changed heart we are too selfish to make marriage work.

Q. What words of wisdom do you have for my readers and/or for Adam and I in our own marriage regarding staying positive, thankful, and grounded in Christ?

A. Read the Word, Meditate upon the Word, Obey the Word, there by you will have the mind of Christ!

Q. Any final thoughts?

A. I could have told you how we began to grow together in marriage but suggesting “things to do” together is not how you build a firm foundation. It is not so much of what you do but who you are. God must be first. You must do this by the renewing of your mind. As you grow spiritually you love each other more deeply.

From the beginning of our marriage we developed interests that we did together. The first year we built our furniture for our apartment. Then we took an upholstery class and upholstered it. Also, that first year we volunteered to be instructors for people who had become blind in adulthood. To teach them balance we taught them how to dance! We did laundry and cleaned our apartment together. We learned to bowl and developed friends through bowling.  Grandpa and I were good friends from the beginning. There was very little disagreement. When we did differ. We learned to say, “Thank you for calling that to my attention!” It always defused the temper and made us laugh.

grandma and grandpa and I

I’m so glad I got to interview my grandma, and I learned more about her and my grandfather in this process. Whether you’re married for 60 years, 6 years, 60 days, or 60 minutes, your marriage needs to be grounded in the Lord-on-High. Keep looking up is a fabulous reminder to stay connected to Christ. Thank you Grandma and Grandpa for being a light to others in your faith and marriage.


This post is apart of a 4 week series in the CMBA Blog 2014 Words of Wisdom Challenge. This week is words of wisdom from family. Come back next Friday for words of wisdom from the Bible.



  1. Virginia

    Wow. This blessed me in such a huge way that it brings me to tears! What an amazing pair your grandparents are! I’m not where they are, and our marriage beginning was not like theirs, but I would love to improve and build a legacy like this in my marriage to pass on to my children and grandchildren! Thanks to you and your grandparents!

  2. Heather,
    I love, love, love this! Your grandparents are a rich treasure from whom you’ve had the privilege of learning and growing. I’m so glad you thought to actually interview your grandmother for this post. I loved it when she said, “Without a changed heart, we are too selfish to make marriage work.” Amen! It is only by the power of Christ at work in me, in us, that we can hope to make our marriage one that glorifies God in all things. This is the goal, not our happiness.

  3. Hannah, what an amazing grandmother you have! I know you will continue to sow the seed of her legacy through knowing God’s Word. Thank you for this interview! It’s nourishing for any marriage.


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