Love in a Bowl of Cereal, Part 5 of Resolution Solutions
Last Saturday morning, Adam and I sipped our milk and munched on our breakfast. We didn’t really talk. We didn’t need to. We both knew how much we loved each other, and shared a moment of intimacy over something as generic and everyday as cereal.
There’s a fantastic line from the 1968 movie of Yours, Mine, and Ours with Henry Fonda and Lucille Ball about what real love is. Frank, played by Fonda, is helping his wife climb down the stairs to go to the hospital because she’s in labor. Their house is always in chaos because Frank is a widower with 10 children and Helen, played by Ball, his new wife, is a widow with 8 children. Colleen, Helen’s oldest daughter, is upset because her boyfriend doesn’t believe she really loves him because she won’t have sex with him. Frank answers his stepdaughter:
Life isn’t a love in; it’s the dishes and the orthodontist and the shoe repairman and ground round instead of roast beef… it isn’t going to bed with a man that proves you’re in love with him; it’s getting up in the morning and facing the drab, miserable, wonderful everyday world with him that counts.”
I’ve shared this before but it bears repeating. In the movie, Letters to Juliet, a fact checker named Sophie from The New Yorker and a restaurant entrepreneur decide to take a pre-honeymoon trip to Italy. When in Italy, her fiancé ignores her, wrapped up in his own preparations to open this restaurant and meet with his suppliers. Sophie wanders off to sightsee on her own and finds out there are women who write letters to Juliet about their romantic woes and leave it at her house, and there are women who actually write back. She joins the ladies and finds a letter by a woman named Claire written 50 years before. Sophie finds herself writing back and Claire and her grandson, Charlie actually show up in Italy. Claire has come to find her Lorenzo, the man she ran away from 50 years earlier. Sophie joins Claire and Charlie on their adventure. They drive all over the area, meeting Lorenzos, trying to find Claire’s Lorenzo. At one point, they stop at a mansion with extensive grounds and Charlie makes a comment about the boy who works in the fields to the man who owns them. “You got to skip the messy bits, Gran,” he says. Grandmother Claire’s wise response is, “Life is the messy bits.”
Real love is messy. The God of the Universe sent His only Son to earth to be born of a virgin in a dirty stable. The Son of God lived and walked among us in a not-so-easy time to live on earth before cell phones, laptops, GPS, modern plumbing, electricity, airplanes, and the Internet. The Son of God lived in a time where He was misunderstood, questioned, denied, betrayed, beaten, bruised, and hated. He died a humiliating, excruciating death on the cross on our behalf. Now why would God put up with all that?
1 John 4:7-12 answers this:
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us.”
Real love didn’t end with Jesus in the grave. Real love triumphed and blossomed when He rose again. God chose messy because He loves us.
Real love is in the everyday. Real love is deciding to get up every morning in spite of the messy bits.
Don’t forget that REAL love is action verb. It’s an everyday choice. I may not always feel like loving Adam, but I love him anyway, because the God of this Universe loves me unconditionally and equips me to love in turn. I am so blessed to wake up next to “real love” everyday.
REAL love is a journey of a husband and wife unconditionally committed to each other as they live, grow, and learn right alongside each other while allowing the Author of the Greatest Love Story Ever guide, teach, and love them.
This Valentine’s Day – take this extraordinarily simple and extravagantly complex word and put it into action in your marriage –
The solution to staying motivated and keeping your resolutions is relationship with God, spouse, and self. This post is Part 5 of the Resolution Solutions series, Priority #3a – REAL Marriage.
Come back next Monday for Part 5 – Taking Care of Self
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