Strengthening Your Home, Day 14

Day 14 Strengthening Your Home 30 Dates in November Challenge from Becoming His Eve

Strengthen, Reinforce, Protect

When my sisters and I were little, we’d devise ways to discreetly get out of eating certain vegetables. I remember trying to throw veggies on the floor, feed it to the dog, put it in my napkin, and even take it upstairs and flush it down the toilet, thinking we were “oh so clever!” Now as an adult, there are very few vegetables that I don’t like. My husband, on the other hand, doesn’t like many at all, so I have to be super creative to incorporate the ones he will eat into our meals.

Whether you are a vegetable eater or a vegetable hater, you are sure to agree vegetables are good for you. According to,

eating a diet rich in vegetables… may reduce risk for heart disease, including heart attack and stroke… may protect against certain types of cancers… may reduce risk of obesity and type 2 diabetes… may reduce the risk of developing kidney stones and help decrease bone loss… and may be useful in helping to lower calorie intake.”

Vegetables help our bodies protect against disease and injury, and improve overall health and energy. Feeding your marriage with the vitamin-rich produce of the Spirit help protect against all the junk that weakens the strength of your marriage and home. How can your love for your husband reinforce the strength of your home and marriage?

8 Ways to Strengthen Your Home

1. Feed Your Love with Joy – A positive attitude and atmosphere protects you from the strength-sucking basement emotions of depression and despair. 

  • Let all who take refuge in You (oh God) be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread Your protection over them, that those who love Your name may rejoice in You.” Psalm 5:11
  • I have set the Lord always before me; because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. You make known to me the path of life; in Your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Psalm 16:8-9, 11
  • These things I remember as I pour out my soul: how I [would] go to the house of God under the protection of the Mighty One with shouts of joy and praise among the festive throng.Why, my soul, are you downcast?Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.” Psalm 42:4-5

2. Feed Your Love with Peace – Making your home a restful and welcoming oasis protects you from unrest, disquiet, and arguments that knocks down your front door.  

  • The Lord gives strength to His people; the Lord blesses His people with peace.“Psalm 29:11
  • It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” Proverbs 21:9
  • The fruit of that righteousness will be peace; its effect will be quietness and confidence forever.” Isaiah 32:17

3. Feed Your Love with Patience – A home of patience is a home of grace – the graciousness to wait on someone else – which protects you from the anger and frustration that rips off your roof. 

  • A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Proverbs 15:18
  • Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.” Ecclesiastes 7:9
  • “…[bear] with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” Colossians 3:13

4. Feed Your Love with Kindness – A home of encouragement and respect uplifts and protects against the dust of neglect and the cruelty that callously clogs your pipes. 

  • Those who are kind benefit themselves, but the cruel bring ruin on themselves.” Proverbs 11:17
  • Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:29, 31-32

5. Feed Your Love with Goodness – A home filled with goodness is a haven from evil, protecting your walls from harm.  

  • Turn from evil and do good…” Psalm 34:14
  • Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16
  • Let us not become weary in doing good,for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.” Galatians 6:9-10

6. Feed Your Love with Faithfulness – Trust and trustworthiness strengthen your marriage bed and all intimacy, guarding against doubt and outside intruders. 

  • “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-11
  • No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.“1 Corinthians 10:13
  • Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4

7. Feed Your Love with Gentleness – If your floors and corners are reinforced with gentleness, you won’t slip up or bump against rough edges. 

  • “…let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very preciousFinally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing,  because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:4, 8-9
  • If anyone is caught in any sin, you who are in the faith should restore the person with a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, or you too might be tempted.” Galatians 6:1

8. Feed Your Love with Self-Control or Self-Restraint  – Fill your home with the Holy Spirit as He will help guard you against chaos. 

  • Teach me to do Your will, for You are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground.” Psalm 143:10
  • “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” Proverbs 25:28
  • “…[be] a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined.” Titus 1:8

Today’s 30 Minute Challenge (Nov 11th) Strengthen Your Home

[20 mins] Which ones of the fruits do you exhibit well? Which ones do you struggle with? Pick one of the fruits of the Spirit and do a word study in the Bible. Grab a concordance, a Biblical commentary, and or a study Bible. Here’s a great resource [Bible Study Tools]  if you don’t have a physical copy. Look up verses with the fruit you picked. Cross reference. Pick one verse with the fruit you’d like to put into action and memorize it.

[10 mins] Spend 10 minutes today doing something to put your ‘fruit’ into action that will help strengthen your marriage and protect it from harm. Here’s some ideas to get you started:

  • Joy – Romans 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice…” This week I will make a conscious effort to be joyful when my husband is joyful. I will celebrate with him when things are going well in his life instead of being jealous or brushing it off as insignificant.
  • Gentleness – Titus 3:2 “…To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.” This week I will make a conscious effort to speak gently to my husband, instead of raising my voice when I am frustrated. I won’t talk back or speak meanly to him.

5 Minute Marathon

Pick one of the above ‘fruits’ you struggle with the most. Write out the verses below them in your own words (or use other verses of your choosing) and ask God to help make it evident how to exhibit this particular fruit more regularly in your marriage.

Today’s Prayer

Heavenly Father, I praise You for Your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and Your Spirit. Lord, send Your Spirit into my home and fill our rooms with Your good fruit. Help me to reflect these fruits in my daily walk with You and in my marriage. Lord, right now, I’m particularly struggling with [insert fruit]. I need Your love and Your grace. Guide me in a manner pleasing to You. Help me to grow in this area continually and to become more and more like You. Protect my marriage from depression and despair, disquiet, anger, unrest and arguments, frustration, neglect, cruelty, evil, harm, lack of trust, doubt, outside distractions and temptations, harshness, and lack of control. Give me Your wisdom and Your eyes to see my husband as You see him. Strengthen our love continually with joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self control. Amen. 

Take It a Step Further

Keep a journal of your exhibited fruits, and when you lack fruit. Pay close attention to the atmosphere, your physical, mental, and emotional states, what tends to prompt good fruits and what tends to prompt lack of fruits, how you react or respond, and how you resolve conflict over your lack of fruit. Pray that God would provide opportunities for you to strengthen your marriage and reinforce your strength with the fruits of the Spirit. Pray that God would teach you how to respond as Jesus would respond.

30 Dates in November Challenge

This post is Day 14 in of the  30 Dates in November Challenge.

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Which fruits do you struggle with? Which fruits come easy for you? How do you strengthen your home and your marriage using these fruits (or other things from Scripture)?


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