Help! I Can’t Do a Project for 30 Days Straight!
The 30 Dates in November Challenge starts in T-24 days! Are you getting excited with me? If you haven’t already or you need a refresher, pop over and read my introductory post: 30 Dates in November Revamped: Planning to Love Your Husband Purposefully. This post also provides you with a list of things you can do to get started now and to prepare for the month of November.
For those of you who are still skeptical or have questions, that’s okay. Over the next few weeks, I hope to answer many of your questions and put your mind at ease.
What If I Can’t Do Everyday?
Each project is designed to help you train yourself to think of practical, intentional ways to love your husband on a daily basis. Reality is that you will most definitely have days where you don’t feel like doing the project or you physically can’t do the projects.
Here’s what you can do:
You can read through each day of the 30 Dates in November challenge in the month of November and plan ahead. This is why the first official challenge of the month will be posted on October 31st so you have a day to plan!
I understand that some of you need more than a day’s notice to work out the challenges. Here are a few suggestions for those of you who are planners like me:
- Start the projects a day late. Read through each day’s challenge and implement it the next day.
- If you need more time, start the project a week late. Read through each of the first week’s challenges, and plan for the following week.
- Read through all the projects in November and plan to implement it in the month of December.
Whenever you decide to start, the idea is to complete the project in 30 days straight. You may not be able to do every single day and that’s okay. Hey, we won’t judge! If you get sick or injured or swamped and miss a day, don’t give up. Don’t beat yourself up. The project isn’t ruined, and it will be there tomorrow. Just pick up and start the next day. This challenge provides you with the structure to be disciplined and intentional, but if you can’t do something one day, then try for another day.
Keep in mind though – “Your life is probably not going to get any less stressful,” writes Kathy Lipp, author of The Husband Project.
- Plan ahead for the days when you’ll be busy or traveling or you have company.
- Keep a positive attitude!
- Don’t abandon the 30 Dates in November Challenge simply because you missed a day.
Whether you’re traveling alone or together, you can still complete the project. Your husband doesn’t have to be in the same room or same house or even the same state to show him love. Some of the projects can be done at a distance. If you know you’ll be traveling separately during the month or you’ll be apart for a day, plan ahead. You can switch around when you do the projects. The projects don’t have to be done in order.
If you have company coming and you won’t have a lot of alone time, that’s okay too. But remember your husband needs to be a priority. Even if your entire family and his entire family is staying under your roof, you can still make time for each other.
What if there’s tension between you & your husband? Isn’t it funny how when you’re trying to be intentional about loving your husband this is the time that the Devil inopportunely picks to mess with your marriage? This isn’t a coincidence. The Devil doesn’t like it when we do anything good and godly. This is why I encourage you to bathe this challenge in prayer.
Keep going! Now I don’t mean grit your teeth and do it anyway because I want you to or you don’t want to fall behind or because you have to love your husband no matter what. We all get angry and frustrated with our spouses. Our husbands all have little quirks or traits that get on our nerves. Love him like Jesus anyway.
What if a major issue rises to the surface? This is where Lipp, author of The Husband Project, encourages women who find themselves in this situation to go get some perspective from “another couple you both love and respect, talk [with] your pastor, or get involved in marital counseling.” She also writes, “Perhaps the best thing… will be for some couples… [to] bring up underlying issues that must be dealt with so you can start to like each other again.”
Looking forward to doing the Challenge with you! If you have any other questions, comments, or concerns, please feel free to leave me a comment below or contact me via Email.