The Romance of Coffee Shops & 3 Coffee Date Ideas

coffee shop romance date idea

Autumn is the most wonderful time of the year… at least in my mind. There’s something so fascinating about the leaves turning from vibrant green to ruby reds & sassy scarlets, pumpkin oranges, and autumn golds. We’re finally starting to see some color change here in Colorado now that we’ve passed the first day of fall. I really do love everything about autumn from sweater weather, boots, scarves, apple pies baking in the oven, pumpkin carving, pumpkin pie, pumpkin muffins, pumpkin spice lattes, pumpkin anything really. Though speaking of lattes, I will get off the “autumn is great!” bandwagon, and focus on what I really came to write about today: Coffee Shop Romance.

It’s ironic that I’m writing about coffee dates when my husband doesn’t actually like coffee, but most coffee shops do serve tea even if it’s sacrilegious… (just kidding!) The point is to soak up the “coffee shop atmosphere” with your spouse, and you can do that whether you’re drinking coffee or tea. Personally, I love the sight, smell, taste, feel, and even the sound of coffee gurgling in the pot. I’d probably live in a coffee shop if I could. There is a certain romance to coffee shops, especially quaint privately owned ones (though I am a big fan of Starbucks too).

In college, there was a wonderful little coffee shop right across from campus owned by a college professor and his wife. Quaint, cozy, and comfortable. A meeting place for friends, couples, and classes. A studying or writing place for some. Delicious coffee, wonderful pastries, and yummy dinners on occasion (sandwiches, soups, etc). Fun, personable staff who always seemed to know just what I liked to order. I miss that place!

There is something enchanting about coffee shops that I can’t quite put into words. Sip your autumn beverage of choice and watch all the people coming in and out. Watch the ones that are on their way to work, or coming from work. Watch the ones who decide to stay and set up shop (i.e. laptop, music, and a good book). Watch the ones who come to meet friends or lovers. Enjoy the bustling atmosphere with the heavenly scents of cappuccino or espresso hovering all around you. Drink in everything! Can you tell I love coffee?

I digress again.

Invite your spouse on a date to your local coffee shop.

I recommend going someplace you usually go, but if you feel like being adventurous, try a brand new one in your hometown or drive to a nearby city.

Pick your time of day: 

*Morning Coffee Warm-up

Treat your spouse to an early-morning date at a local coffee shop. Pick out a seasonal drink and snack (like a caramel latte and a pumpkin cream cheese bagel).  Sit near a window to enjoy the autumn scenery if possible, or near a fireplace (if the establishment has one). Coffee always gives you a warm and cozy feeling. Scoot closer to your honey and do your devotionals and pray together while sipping your beverages.

One of the items on my fall bucket list this year is to read more. Pick a book for you & your spouse to read through together this autumn. Start during your coffee shop date with one another.

Here are some books on my autumn reading list:

40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate by Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg

Love as a Way of Living: Seven Keys to Transforming Every Aspect of Your Life by Gary Chapman

101 Conversation Starters for Couples by Gary Chapman & Ramon Pressen

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman

Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship, & Life Together by Mark & Grace Driscoll

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller

Afternoon Coffee Shop Hop

Pick out three or four coffee shops to try out with your spouse. Call ahead to make sure they offer samples or if they have a happy hour. Sip one coffee brew at one shop, and then drive (or amble arm-in-arm if it’s within walking distance) to the next one, and so on. Check out nearby sites like browsing through a local bookstore, taking a stroll through a nearby park, meandering through the next door art gallery or museum, or furniture shopping for your dream home in a furniture store close by.

WARNING: You will be super caffeinated so stick with sample sizes or the smallest cup available. Break it up by sharing a delicious autumn treat like an apple fritter or a slice of pumpkin bread.

You can also spread this out over the day, starting with a morning cup of joe, followed by an afternoon pick-me-up, and finishing with an evening coffee night cap.

Evening Coffee Shop Excursion

Head to your local coffee shop after dinner with your spouse. Coffee shops offer free entertainment too – like jazz nights or local bands. There’s one in my hometown that does weekly game nights on Thursdays, one in the next town over that does free jazz nights the first Wednesday of every month, and one in a local big city that show cases local bands every Tuesday and Friday evening. Call the coffee shop or check out their website to find out when they have events. Scour your local paper, on your city’s Internet webpage, or with the local tourism organization for more details. Enjoy a decaffeinated vanilla chai tea, hot apple cider, or a maple vanilla steamer, and something to satisfy your sweet tooth like a pumpkin cookie with your spouse.  If there isn’t an event going on, grab a favorite board game or deck of cards and challenge your honey to a friendly competition.

Conversation Starters

Conversation Starters for Married Couples

The 15 Minute Date 

50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse on Date Night

30 Ways to Start a Conversation with Your Spouse 

Creative Conversation Starters for Married Couples

Marriage Manners: Conversation Starters

20 Good Date Questions for Married Couples to Ask Each Other

Couples Conversation Starters

Date Questions

Tips for a Great Coffee Date

1. Plan to spend at least 1 1/2 – 2 hours  at the coffee shop to get the most out of your date time (save the coffee shop hop). 

2. It can’t hurt to ask the barista what seasonal favorites they are serving, or if they are running a special.

3. Use the time to connect with one another. This means power off or at least silence cell phones, and eliminating other distractions.

4. For coffee shop chemistry, hold hands, make eye contact, flirt, and kiss on occasion. Remember why you fell in love.

5. Sign up for a rewards program if they have one (for future dates).

*I included this date idea in this post last year. 

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This post is apart of the Sweet September Date Ideas collection – commit to more fun date nights this autumn!  See also Breakfast with Beethoven & Soup & Scrabble Date

Linking up with: Messy Marriage, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, and Raising Mighty Arrows

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Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you…”

I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.” Ecclesiastes 3:12

May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.” 2 Corinthians 13:14

Share with Us

What is your favorite autumn beverage? What’s a good conversation starter for married couples? What are you reading this fall? 



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