Romance Your Man “His” Way
With Valentine’s Day tomorrow, you’ve no doubt been noticing the commercial craze – the candy heart boxes and conversation heart packs, the teddy bears and other cute cuddly critters, the flowers and chocolate covered strawberries, and scented candles. While there is nothing inherently wrong about these things, they don’t particularly say “manly.” (Correct me if I’m wrong, men!)
How about romancing your husband “his” way? Here are some gift ideas that I know my husband truly appreciates. This may not be true of all guys, so take these as a general suggestion. You know your man better than corporate America and you understand his needs and desires better than any advice any blog could give you. Remember that!
Today’s Get Real Valentine Challenge is Romance Your Husband His Way!
Remember AEIOU and sometimes… an extra E.
1. Amaze him!
Surprise him with something he’s been wanting or something he loves that he hasn’t had in awhile. It doesn’t have to be huge. It can be a box of his favorite candies or a movie rental he’s been wanting to see or it can even be letting him have his Nintendo or Xbox time. I always like to surprise my husband with gifts he’s not expecting, but I also try to get him something he really wants. For Christmas last year, I gave him an Amazon gift card (something on his Christmas list) but I also got him a Star Trek Enterprise pizza cutter and a new pizza stone (as our old one had broken).
2. Ease him through something difficult with a little token.
If he’s got a cold, buy him a fun box of Kleenex and make him some homemade chicken soup. If he’s going through a tough time at work, make him a little banner of appreciation to hang in the living room, showing how much you respect him for working hard for the family and maintaining good work ethics. If he’s tired when he gets home from work, give him the gift of a back or neck massage while you watch a movie together… or for something extra special, a sensual massage. Don’t be afraid to ask him what he needs or wants either. Simply ask, “How can I love on you tonight?”
3. Invest in him.
He’s your husband. Show him kindness by being willing to spend time, energy, and money on him. Save a little extra grocery money and use it to buy a nice gift, or to plan a date night out. It’s okay to splurge every once in awhile. I brought a can of raspberry green tea home to my husband yesterday since he’s misplaced his metal water bottle. He enjoyed the nice treat!
4. Offer the gift of presence.
This one I borrowed from Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages. Be there for your husband. Offer to accompany him to something he would enjoy – an action movie, a hockey game, a Chinese restaurant, a seminar at church, etc. Spend time together just “being.” You don’t have to do anything together per se. Sometimes it’s the moments of silence just knowing your spouse is nearby that can be enjoyable. Adam and I enjoy snuggling quietly when watching a movie. Sometimes, if he’s not ready to go to bed yet (and I am) or I want to take a nap and he doesn’t, he’ll sit nearby and read while I rest. It’s comforting to feel his presence. If your husband asks to spend time with you or says he misses you, honor that. Drop what you’re doing, no matter how important it may seem (within reason of course), and give him your full undivided attention and a little lovin’ too!
5. Unveil your beauty.
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.” Ecclesiastes 3:11
Men are physical and visual. Give him the gift of your beauty. Dress up for your husband on occasion. Take care of your physical appearance – brush your teeth, run a comb through your hair, and spritz on some perfume before he arrives home. Wear his favorite colors, or a favorite outfit, or jewelry. My husband has great taste in jewelry, and I love wearing the pieces he picks out for me. Make an effort to look beautiful and inviting for him.
*I’d like to add a second E.
6. Emulate Christ.
“Her husband… praises her… Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Proverbs 31:28-29
Give your husband the gift of being a praiseworthy wife. You were designed to reflect and radiate the beauty and glory of God. Live like it! You are a beauty, designed to bring joy to your husband by affirming him as a man, not just through physical intimacy but through emotional nourishment and spiritual uplifting.
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