Flare Your Quills – Protecting Your Husband’s Heart, Part 1, Day 9

Editor’s Note: Due to unforeseen circumstances, I couldn’t post yesterday. Here is Day 9’s post. Day 10 (today’s post) will be coming later. 

Did you know that porcupines are born with soft spines and heads? Porcupines flare sharp quills to protect their heads and bodies if threatened. If the predator comes closer, they wave their coarse bristles in the air, shaking them about, creating a humming sound. Finally, if the predator won’t leave them alone, the porcupine will charge backwards, impaling their attacker. God created this little critter with a built-in weapons system to protect itself from harm. What a creative God we have!

Wives, we can learn from this little creature: You need to protect your husband. You need to flare your quills to protect the beautiful, intimate, and sacred gift of marriage.

Love Always Protects

Protect v. to defend or guard from attack, invasion, loss, annoyance, insult, etc; to cover or shield from injury or danger

Protect is a verb, requiring active duty. 1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”

The Devil will use anything and everything to “steal” your joy, “kill” your love and respect, and “destroy” your marriage. That’s why ladies, we have to be on high alert, to protect your home, marriage, and your husband’s heart.

The Best Place to Start Protecting

We can have a built-in defense system (like the porcupine) against the Devil – it’s called the full armor of God. But like any defense system, this one needs maintenance in order to stay sharp.

  • Stay Active in Prayer

Every smart soldier knows they must keep the line of communication open to their Commander. God has orders for us, through his Word and the promptings of the Holy Spirit. Satan hates it when we pray. He knows prayer strengthens us and keeps us alert to his deception. Paul cautions us to pray for others as well. With the Full Armor of God and gift of Prayer, we can be ready for whatever the Enemy throws at us.” (Christianity-About.com)

You need to start protecting your husband’s heart by protecting your own heart, and the best place to begin is on your knees.

Daily pray on the armor of God – on yourself, on your husband, and on your marriage! Be aware and alert of things that may harm your marriage. Watch for things that divide you and your husband and don’t let the Devil get a foothold.

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying…” Ephesians 6:18

  • Stay Active with the Belt of Truth

Not only did ancient soldiers wear belts to keep their armor on, but also to protect their vital organs, such as kidneys and the liver. Put on the belt of truth to protect the “vital organs” of your marriage. Saturate yourself in the truth of God’s Word and pray for integrity and clarity of mind so that you may defeat and be free of the Prince of lies.

You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32

  • Stay Active with the Breastplate of Righteousness

Ancient soldiers wore a breastplate to protect their heart and lungs because a stab to the chest could be fatal. Similarly, you should protect the breath and heart of your marriage by putting on the breastplate of righteousness because The Devil likes to take a stab at you. We are not righteous by our own merit, but through Jesus Christ, who rescued us. We have been cleansed from all unrighteousness by Christ and the Holy Spirit works daily within us to make us holy, pure, and blameless. Accept the gift of righteousness into your marriage daily.

Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves to righteous living.” Romans 6:18 (NLT).

  • Stay Active with Feet Fit with the Gospel of Peace

Sturdy footwear would have been a must in the ancient world because of the rocky terrain, often littered with traps and snares by the enemy to slow soldiers down. Satan likes to litter our path with temptations, things to snare us and drag us away from our marriages. Worry, stress, anxiety, and the pressures of daily life are enough to disrupt the peace in your marriage. Put on the shoes of the Gospel of peace and rest in knowing that you are saved by grace alone, not by anything you can do to make yourself right with God, but through Jesus Christ alone. Put on the shoes of the Gospel of peace and remember that it is only in God that you will find true peace, joy, rest, and satisfaction, and wandering from your marriage leads to destruction.

Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand.” Romans 5:1-2

  • Stay Active with the Shield of Faith

A shield stops arrows, spears, swords, and even some hurtling objects. The shield of faith guards us against Satan’s strongest weapon – doubt. When you doubt that God hears you, when you doubt that you love your husband, when you doubt that marriage is worth it, stop and pick up the shield of faith. Know that you can always trust your Heavenly Father’s plan, purpose, and timing is perfect because God’s Word is unassailable. Have faith that God will protect and provide for you in your marriage, even when there’s trouble in paradise.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways, acknowledge Him; and He will direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6

I would have lost heart had I not believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He will strengthen your heart…” Psalm 27:13-14

  • Stay Active with the Helmet of Salvation

The helmet of salvation protects the head and guards your thoughts against Satan’s attacks. We are free from the condemnation of sin because we have been saved by faith through the grace of God. Remind yourselves of that truth daily – you are saved! You no longer have to sit in worry, doubt, and fear. Allow God to fill your mind with hope, peace, and joy in your salvation.

“O God the Lord, the strength of my salvation, Jesus, You have covered my head in the day of battle.” Psalm 140:7

  • Stay Active with the Sword of the Spirit

No weapon goes to bat like the Sword of the Spirit. It is indestructible! Take up this weapon daily. Fight off the Devil’s schemes by plunging yourself deep into God’s Word. When Jesus was tempted by the Devil in the wilderness, how did He combat it? By using Scriptures. I highly encourage you to take time to memorize Scripture in your daily walk with God so that in times of trouble and distress, you can call to mind the impenetrable Word of God as your defense.

’Not by power, not by might, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord.” Zechariah 4:6

Your husband’s heart is like the porcupine’s soft head and spine. His heart is tender and beautiful, just like yours is. As a relational being, woman is intuitively designed to pay attention to emotions. As a wife, you have been placed in a unique position to share in your husband’s deepest emotions, desires, needs, and struggles. While the husband’s job is to be the head of the household and to protect his wife physically, financially, sexually, spiritually, and emotionally, the woman has the unique job of protecting the heart of the household – the heart of her husband.

——Bottom Line————————-

1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “Love always protects…” Protect your husband’s heart and the heart of your marriage by flaring your quills – your built-in defense system.  Actively protect the heart of your marriage by being right with God, spending time in prayer daily, and dressing every morning with the full armor of God!

This is Day 9 of the ½ marathon blogging challenge from the CMBA. For the first 13 days in October, you will get a nonstop taste of my writing. To see the official rules, click here. To see other CMBA bloggers’ posts, click here.

I’d love to hear from you…

Single, Dating, and Engaged ladies, how will putting on the full armor of God daily help prepare you for marriage?

For those of you who are married, what do you think about this idea of a built-in defense system? How do you actively protect your marriage from the attacks of the Evil One?

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  1. I like the comparison of the porcupine’s quills to the armor of God. It something we should always be wearing – it should be a part of us at all times.

    • Yes, I thought it was a clever reminder. I can’t take full credit for the porcupine idea. It was something we talked about at ladies Bible study last week. I encourage you, my brother in the faith, to take up the full armor of God always!


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