Do I Delight in Evil? Day 8

Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth!” 1 Corinthians 13:6

Doesn’t that sound awful? Who delights in evil? Not me! I don’t take pleasure in watching extreme brutality. I don’t laugh when someone’s marriage falls apart or when a couple loses a child. I don’t watch the people I love fail at something and scream, “I want to see more.” I’m a good person, right?

I’m A Good Person

This is a little lie from Satan, commonly used by people who don’t follow Christ and naively believed by people who do follow Christ. Everyone wants to think of themselves as good, but the Bible says otherwise.

  • Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
  • The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure.” (Jeremiah 17:9)

You don’t want to think of yourself as evil. When God created Adam and Eve and placed them in the Garden, He told them they could enjoy everything in Eden, except for the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Why wouldn’t God want Adam and Eve, and subsequently, mankind to know everything?

  1. He is God, outside of time, infinite in His wisdom, and we are finite.
  2. God knows what’s best for us – and He still does, even after sin entered the world. God told Adam and Eve not to eat of the fruit, not because He’s a tyrant or because He wanted us to remain naïve, but because God loves us and He wants to protect us.

Evil is anything and anyone who goes against the nature of our triune perfect and holy God. Evil is anything that deliberately violates our God and other people, causing injury, suffering, and destruction.

Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible says this: The heart of man is deceitful, and “it deceives him with respect to sin…”

  • “…it proposes it to him under the notion of pleasure; it promises him a great deal in it, but does not yield a real pleasure to him… it ends in bitterness and death…”
  • “… it proposes it under the notion of profit; it promises him riches…these deceitful riches choke the word, cause him to err from the faith, pierce him through with many sorrows, and endanger the loss of his soul…”
  • “…it promises honor and preferment in the world, but promotes him to shame…”
  • “… it promises him liberty, but brings him into bondage…”
  • “… it promises him impunity, peace, and security, when sudden destruction comes…”
  • “…it deceives him in point of knowledge; it persuades him that he is a very knowing person, when he is blind and ignorant, and knows nothing as he ought to know; and only deceives himself; for there is no true knowledge but of God in Christ …”
  • “…it deceives in the business of religion; it makes a man believe that he is a very holy and righteous man…”
  • “… it suggests to him that concupiscence or lust, or the inward workings of the mind, are not sin… that, touching the righteousness of the law, [you are] blameless…”

Heart

Love doesn’t seethe in bitterness when something doesn’t go her way. Love doesn’t wish her husband ill when she grows envious of him. Love doesn’t wish another woman ill because she covets the other woman’s relationship with her spouse. Love doesn’t sit in pride, refusing to apologize when she has done wrong. Love doesn’t inwardly smirk when her husband screws up.

My husband and I had the opportunity to move out to Colorado last year. In my heart, I wasn’t sure I wanted to move. I remember feeling like I’d be so relieved that Adam wouldn’t get the job so that we wouldn’t have to move. I battled doubts that God was really calling us to leave and that He would take care of us.

It just so happened that we moved anyway, and Adam didn’t get the job. Then my selfishness came back to bite me, and Adam was without work for three months. Yet God in His providence had a plan, even if we didn’t understand it. During those months with my husband, I enjoyed my time with Adam and we grew closer to the Lord, relying upon His promise to provide for us and protect us. God took something meant for evil – my heart’s self-centeredness, the insecurity of the unknown, and the lack of income – and turned it into something good.

How to Honor Your Husband with Your Emotions

  • Allow God  to redeem your emotions.

And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” (Ezekiel 36:26)

  • Regularly confess your sins before God, and ask for forgiveness.

Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that…the intent of your heart may be forgiven you.” (Acts 8:22).

Above all else, guard your heart,for everything you do flows from it.”

  • Trust in God’s provision, plan, and faithfulness.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)

Head

Love doesn’t dwell on negative thoughts about her husband. Love doesn’t hold grudges. Love doesn’t fantasize about other men. Love doesn’t think about leaving her husband.

It’s heart-breaking to admit this. I’m ashamed to admit that thoughts of divorce crossed my mind a few times in the first months of our marriage. I am convinced that this was in part due to the Devil’s little lies- I’d be happier or better off elsewhere, but also in part due to my own selfishness. It is by God’s miraculous grace and my husband’s unconditional love that our marriage survived. Adam is a daily reminder and a picture of the loving arms of Christ, welcoming me back when I’ve hurt him, readily forgiving me, and being the world’s most patient husband (seriously). I can’t put into words what a joy and privilege it is to be loved by Adam and to love and serve him!

How to Honor Your Husband with Your Thoughts

  • Practice positive, uplifting thinking daily! Dwell on the positives about your husband.

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

  • Devote yourself to prayer about your thought life.

Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.” (Proverbs 16:3 – NKJV).

  • Meditate on things of God, on His character and His promises.

You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You.” (Isaiah 26:3) 

Hands

Love doesn’t take pleasure in making her husband upset. Love doesn’t gloat and say, “I told you so.” Love doesn’t purposely withhold herself when she’s angry. Love doesn’t willfully disobey her husband’s authority. Love doesn’t join her husband in his sinful acts. Love doesn’t take over and lead when her husband isn’t doing his job, or isn’t doing the job she thinks he should be doing.

How to Honor Your Husband with Your Actions

  • Submit to your husband’s leadership.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24

  • Work to do things that please your husband, and avoid doing things that hurt or harm him.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12

  • Go before God in prayer if your husband asks you to do something that violates His Word. Spend time in Scripture reviewing your understanding of His teachings. Respectfully tell your husband why you disagree and how it contradicts what the Bible calls you to do.  

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…” (Psalm 23:4)

——Bottom Line————————-

1 Corinthians 13:6 says, “Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth…” If you are struggling with honoring your husband with your head, heart, and hands, pray these verses over your marriage. Rejoice in the truth of God’s Word and His promises!

This is Day 8 of the ½ marathon blogging challenge from the CMBA. For the first 13 days in October, you will get a nonstop taste of my writing. To see the official rules, click here. To see other CMBA bloggers’ posts, click here.

I’d love to hear from you…

As you prepare for marriage, what thoughts do you have about how your emotions, thoughts, and actions will glorify God and honor your husband?

As a married woman, how do you guard yourself against evil and giving into temptation to sin?

What other ways can you honor your husband in the areas of heart, head, and hands?

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5. I’m Always Right, Right? 13.1 Blog Challenge, Day 4

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10 Comments

  1. These suggestions should be packaged into a little booklet for every bride to be! The negative thoughts, coupled with negative talk, especially to other wives is so very deadly to the marriage. It is a constant reinforcement of and focus on the perceived deficits in her husband. I see and hear this all too often, especially in the work setting. It seems to be a regular event where women gather to share their dirty laundry and play “who can top this” with stories of their spouse.

    • Thank you, Kim. You’re absolutely right. “Trash talking” your husband to anybody is deadly for a marriage. I pray that every young wife (and older wife too) would keep a watch on her mouth and take her concerns to Jesus first before ever confronting her husband in love and respect and ever considering outside help. Too often women vent their emotions to everyone because their husbands aren’t meeting their emotional needs. I pray also that husbands would wrap their wives in emotional security and would love their wives as Christ loves the Church.

  2. Yes! Sometimes I find myself thinking (talking to God) “I can’t believe I just laughed at that or thought that…” The heart is not good. As the Bible says “who can know it?” Other than God.

    • It’s challenging because we don’t like to see ourselves as evil, but we need to delight in God and His goodness and despise evil. Yet I want to remind you that the heart is no longer evil because we have been redeemed by our Lord Jesus Christ and we wear His righteousness daily!

      Psalm 107:1-2 “Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. Let the redeemed of the Lord say so, whom He has redeemed from the hand of the enemy…” (NKJV)
      Psalm 108:1 “My heart is confident in you, O God; no wonder I can sing your praises with all my heart!” (NLT)

  3. This was so appropriate for me to read today…I literally just finished a post (for the marathon) about choosing to not think about your husband’s sins. The verse you chose from Ezekiel was so perfect…I’m snagging it to throw in my post too!

    • Elizabeth, thank you for visiting. May God work in your heart to let go of any grudges, bitterness, un-forgiveness, or unkindness toward your husband because of his sin. May you choose to be gracious as God is gracious and forgive with the blessed hope that you have been forgiven too!

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