Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Post-it – Dare #3
Dare #3 Don’t underestimate the power of a post-it note! I am a big fan of post-it notes. Okay, seriously. Leave little post-it notes to encourage him and boost his confidence everywhere in the house from “you light up my life” next to a light switch to “I only have eyes for you” under his contact solution, etc. Send him text messages (or emails) throughout the day to remind him how much you want to be with him! Leave a post-it note trail to the bedroom detailing how you want to “physically please” him.
In my case, my husband works nights so he’ll be sleeping most of today. However, I plan to leave him post it notes in places he’ll see when he gets home reminding him of how much I enjoy being physically intimate with him.
Don’t be bashful ladies! There is to be no shame in the marriage bed. Plus, your husband will definitely appreciate you initiating. You’re not robbing him of his leadership role when you initiate. You’re honoring him by letting him know you are available and open and enjoy being close to him. We are redeemed Eves – God designed sex to be so beautiful and wonderful. It was not just designed for procreation (Genesis 1), but also for unity…
Ephesians 5:28-30 reads, “ In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’”
Song of Solomon 2:10 says, “My beloved came and spoke to me: ‘Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away with me.”
Invite your husband to come away with you. Cherish your husband and let him know just how precious he is to you. Nourish your husband with your physical displays of love. Nourish your husband with affirming words that speak love, honor, and confidence to him whether you write it on a post-it or just hold your spouse’s hands, look into his eyes, and speak.
Shannon Etheridge from the Sexually Confident Wife states: “Our sexuality is a gift from God, and just as we take great delight as we watch a loved one open a special gift, God takes great delight when husbands and wives unwrap the gift they’ve been given in one another. ”
God designed sex to be physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually pleasurable, passionate, and fulfilling. You’re supposed to feel fabulous together when you make love. You’re supposed to enjoy one another’s company and enjoy getting to know one another better. You’re supposed to connect wholly – where all other thoughts fade and you can focus on pleasuring one another and being pleasured. You’re supposed to feel deeply unifying and deeply intimate.
Our sexuality is a powerful gift, ladies. Let your husband unwrap you today. Go crazy and cover yourself in post-it-notes if you so choose. Guys are visual – I’m sure that will get him to sit up and pay attention. :O) Put a bow on your head, or somewhere more eye-catching. Take a moment and evaluate your sex life together. Sheila Wray Gregorie from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: Real Marriage. No Pretensions. has a great way to do this. Scroll down to the bottom of the post to read.
Need a confidence boost?
What things do you need in place to make you most comfortable when you’re intimate with your husband (i.e. eliminating distractions, low lighting or more lighting, making sure the kids are in bed, etc). Think about these and try as much as possible to get everything into place ahead of time. When you’re comfortable, you’ll be less distracted.
When do you feel most feminine? Take advantage of that beautiful physique God has given you. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful, feminine, and sexy. Spritz on a little perfume. Wash your hair during the afternoon before he gets home from work. Try a fun color of eyeshadow or lipstick. Pull out some of your most expensive jewelry and put on a pair of high heels – whatever makes you feel most feminine and sexy – go for it! When you feel beautiful and sexy, you’ll exude beautiful and sexy. Take joy in sex!
Repeat to yourself: I am a beautiful, confident, sexy woman, precious in the sight of the Lord, and loved by my husband and I have been freed from all guilt and shame to enjoy my marriage bed!