Your Love for God Must Come First
*If you haven’t already, read the introduction to Fridays are 4 Prayer: Praying the Armor of God on Your Husband.*
#1 Pray that your love for God will always come first!
For married women –
God has given us the wonderful gift of marriage. But our husbands do not take the place of God. We do not put them up on so high a pedestal that they become an idol. It seems a bit harsh to call your husband an idol, but anything that takes higher priority than God, anything and anyone you love more than God is an idol. And God is a jealous God! He wants your attention, your devotion, your love, not because He’s a tyrant, but because he loves you too.
Imagine you stopped spending time with your husband – stopped cooking meals, doing household chores, going to church with him, having sex with him, parenting with him (if you have kids). He’d be pretty upset, don’t you think? God feels the same way. God wants intimacy with you. God wants time with you. God wants you to invest in Him because He invests in you.
God must be first! God has to be first, or your marriage will suffer. Spend time in prayer thanking God for His love for you. Pray that He would not lose first place in your heart, that He would equip you with a greater love for Him than for any other.
Take it a step further – Set aside time with your husband to pray together that God will always be first. Thank God for being your Bridegroom and rescuing you, His bride. Confess the times when you haven’t put God first and purpose to keep each other accountable. Discuss how to make God a more active priority in your marriage (there is always room for improvement).
For single women –
While we aren’t called to be anxious, we need to focus our attention somewhere. Focus on things concerning the Lord and pleasing the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). Don’t be anxious about being single or not being in a relationship. (Philippians 4:6-7). God’s peace surpasses all understanding when we make our requests known to Him and we are actively seeking His will, not ours. Pray that God would give you a love and a passion for Him and His will. Pray that God will give you peace that surpasses understanding as you are in the “waiting” stage and that you would be content in your singlehood.
Take it a step further – Find another single lady and set up a regularly time to meet together to pray for one another and enjoy each other’s fellowship. Treasure the time you have together and discuss ways to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.
For dating and engaged women –
It’s easy to get caught up in those early stages of fluttery happiness and thinking that there’s nothing greater in the world. But amidst the butterflies and the nothing-can-go-wrong stage we can sometimes lose perspective. And honestly, this can happen at any stage of the relationship. For those of you who are about to get married, sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in all the details, the scores of daily activities, the flurries of love in the air, the promise of a new life together. Again, it’s so so so easy to lose focus on who is most important in your life. Matthew 6:33 says, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.” Everything you ask for in the Lord’s name, He hears, and everything you ask for according to His will, you’ll receive. But remember that… it’s His will, not yours. As you continue into various stages of your relationship, pray that you will continue to seek God first, that you will seek to live righteously before Him, and that you will remember to take all your requests no matter how trivial before Him.
Take it a step further – Talk with your significant other/fiance about regularly praying together if you aren’t already. When Adam and I started dating and through our engagement we prayed together before bed every night on the phone or when we last saw each other during the day. While we missed a few days, this was such a wonderful blessing in our lives and continues to be through our marriage. It helps us re-focus on who is most important – God, and that our spiritual life together is critical to our relationship.
For those who are no longer married –
We have been born into a world at war. And that war causes pain and scars. But God provides healing and nourishment for our souls. Read Hosea 2:19-20. God has chosen you to be His bride. He makes you righteous and just before Him. He loves you and is faithful to you. Praise God for His love and faithfulness! Pray that He will always be first in your heart, and that He will fill the aches and pains of your life with everlasting love, peace, and joy!
Take it a step further – Read Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers. While I would recommend this book to anyone, I think that this book is incredibly applicable to those of us who have undergone immense pain and suffering in our lives, especially the pain of a divorce or losing your husband. It is a good reminder that we are lost, broken, and betrayed by a world that could care less and without Christ’s infinite love and His sacrifice for us, we would still be lost, broken, and betrayed. Delve into the depth of God’s love and read the book of Hosea.