Brag on Him!

Adam and Hannah Williams

People brag about their kids, accomplishments, careers, homes, and possessions but how many people do you read about bragging about their spouses? I am a happy wife with a great marriage and I think the world needs to hear more of this. The world needs to be encouraged that strong and good marriages exist.

Today I want to brag on my husband. I am grateful for an ever patient, loving, hard working husband. I don’t ever want to take him for granted and I want him to always know and feel just how special, important, and loved he is. God purposefully wove this incredible man into my life who changed the way I look at life and love for the better. God has blessed me with someone who knows me, loves me, challenges me, encourages me, understands me, puts up with me, shares life with me, prays for me, provides for me, protects me, and walks with me. Adam Williams  is the best friend, lover, and husband I can ever ask for.

I’ll leave you with this verse which I hope for, strive for, and pray for my marriage and all of yours:

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”  Proverbs 31:11-12 

Share with us! How has your husband been a blessing to you? Come on ladies, don’t be shy. Brag on him here at the BHE community. 

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Editor’s Note: I shared this post as a status on Facebook and felt it was appropriate to share here. I want to apologize for being MIA. I never intended to be away from my blog this long. Life has thrown some crazy things at me – both good and bad. I have a wonderfully unpredictable and rewarding job now. I say unpredictable because I’m working with kids and needless to say when working with children, you never know what to expect. This summer I have the opportunity to work with middle school boys and girls and already I’m learning so much. I’m grateful God is using me in this way to influence the next generation in a positive, fun way. I also have been battling health issues, and one of the major side effects is lack of sleep. As you can imagine, this has been taxing on my physical and emotional health, my walk with God, my marriage, and my ability to function during the day. I hope to post more on this soon to give you better insight into how to pray for me. I’ve been exploring my options and have finally arrived in a place where I feel I’m beginning to get some answers and some options for prevention and healing. Thank the Lord for modern medicine and for His peace which surpasses understanding. Thank you for those of you who haven’t given up on BHE or me. I’m still here. I hope to be posting again more frequently. Please keep my marriage, my health, my job, and my walk with God in your prayers. Thank you. 

Swing Into Childhood Date

Editor’s Note: This post was originally published on April 12, 2012.

Today is dubbed as Remember Childhood Day. Think about some of the things you enjoyed as a kid. Make a list with your husband and then do some of the things on that list today.

Pull out the old photo albums and leaf through the photos of the two of you when you were kids (if you have access to them).

Pull out the paints and splash some color on a page. Pick up coloring books at your local dollar store, set the timer, and have a coloring war. Don’t worry about staying inside the lines!

Draw with sidewalk chalk in your driveway.

Play a lively game of tag in the yard or hide-and-seek around your house.

Read a children’s book together before bed with a cup of hot tea.

Go swinging at the park. Chase each other down the sides. Challenge each other the monkey bars.

Eat a fudgesicle or some other childhood treat.

Shoot each other with silly string or spray each other with squirt guns.

*Photo Credit: Alicia*

The point is to allow yourselves to be free and embrace your inner child!

 

Is Your Trash Overflowing? Believing Truth, Part 1b

 

is your trash overflowing

Lately, I’ve been moody. Very unlike me. Moodiness generally leads to indecisiveness, and indecisiveness to boredom, and boredom back to moodiness for me. It’s a vicious cycle.

I couldn’t figure out why. Things are going well at work. Adam and I’ve been spending lots of quality time together and enjoying ourselves. I’ve been connecting with friends. I’ve clocked hours of writing time for my novel. It is finally feeling like spring. I’ve been more active. So why the blahs?

When I’m moody, I’m like an over-filled trash can. All the junk comes spilling out and I can’t focus on anything else until the mess is cleaned up – until I go to God on my knees.

Lie #2 Your relationship with God has nothing to do with your marriage. 

My pastor recently preached a sermon about filling the void. What void? I asked myself as I tuned into listen. He quoted Blaise Pascal who said, “There is a God shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus.”

A little voice inside me said, “that void.” In my busyness, I’ve been neglecting the number one relationship in my life – Jesus. I find sometimes I get this “moodiness” when I haven’t been spending time with God, almost as if God starts taking away my contentment, satisfaction, and joy in all other things but Him so I come to a point where there’s no other option but Him.

When I start filling my life with activities without putting God first, my marriage suffers. The Holy Spirit kept prompting me to ‘seek God,’ but I kept putting it off saying, “I’ll have time tomorrow.”

Satan wants to convince you that your relationship with God and your relationship with your spouse have nothing to do with each other. But believe the truth, my friend, everything is worthless without love. Your marriage is nothing without the Source of true love – Jesus.

Lack of Spiritual Intimacy, over time, can lead to… 

  • Discontentment
  • Disunity
  • Miscommunication
  • Arguments
  • Purposelessness
  • Disconnect
  • Unfair expectations
  • Distrust
  • Disrespect

Buckle what is TRUE around your Waist 

Your relationship with God has everything to do with your marriage! Just as music can create the atmosphere of a room, your walk with the Lord sets the tone for your marriage.

Proverbs 4:23 warns you to guard your heart, “for everything you do flows from it.” If your heart isn’t centered on God, but rather is centered on your relationships, work, or your stuff, everything you do will motivated by that centering.

Spiritual Intimacy… 

T… Teaches Accountability

God has placed an intimate partner in my spiritual walk. When I share my struggles with my spiritual walk with Adam, I feel a burden lifting. The closer I am to God, the more heightened conscience I have. I am aware of my faults and flaws more readily, and my need for God’s (and my husband’s) grace. I am quicker to confess, apologize, and/or ask for help. I relay my doubts, worries, and concerns with my husband, ask for guidance, wisdom, or clarification, and experience love, compassion, and mercy on a deeper level than I can with any other human.

James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”

R… Regulates Emotions

I’m all out of whack without God in the center of my day. I get frustrated and angry more quickly. My decisions are more self-centered. I grow moody, listless, indecisive, and bored. These emotions have a disastrous effect on my marriage, leading to tension, miscommunication, frustration, anger, and arguments.

When I’m centered on God,

  • I invite the Holy Spirit to enter my mess, and listen to my husband tell me about his bad day without dumping all my complaints on him first.
  • I breathe to calm myself before explaining why I am so upset. 
  • I let go of my frustrated feelings, recognizing getting angry isn’t going to fix the situation or change anything at the moment, and focus on what I can do right now in love for my husband. 

U… Unifies Us

All your decisions, big or small, should begin in prayer, seeking direction from God. Be united in your efforts to work toward what’s best for your marriage and one another. Sometimes this means sacrificing what you really want for the good of your marriage. This could mean something like I want to eat out one more time, but I respect Adam’s decision to cook at home because we’re over budget, or something bigger like Adam quitting his night job and taking a different job so we can be together more.

Romans 14:9 ” Let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding…”

E… Encourages Thanksgiving 

When you recognize you can’t do anything on your own, you are more aware of the work of the Father in your life. Recognizing God’s presence is the first step in gratitude – being grateful for the gifts He has given you and being grateful for your spouse. When you forget what God has done for you and what He has given you, you begin to take the people and the things in your life for granted. This leads to lower respect, weaker communication, lower passion, and lesser love in marriage. When you allow the Holy Spirit to permeate your heart, you will grow in gratitude, allowing this joy to outflow into your marriage and to affect your daily decisions.

Ephesians 5:17, 20-21 “…be filled with the Spirit… giving thanks always and for everything in to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for the Lord.”

Fill your life with God first, allowing God to fill your marriage with true good things – accountability, balanced emotions, unity, and thanksgiving. 

Clothing Your Marriage with the Armor of God

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20 Ideas to Beat Rainy Day Blues on Date Night

 

beat the rainy day blues date ideas from Becoming His Eve

April showers bring May flowers… or so the saying goes. Beat the rainy day blues with some awesome date night ideas.

  1. Go bowling. Grab a slice and a brew and send the ball down the lane a few times.
  2. Visit a local art gallery or museum. Stroll arm-in-arm indoors out of the weather and enjoy a little culture.
  3. Clean out the attic or your basement together. Doing a meaningful project as a couple can build your relationship, improve your communication skills, and make you feel good when it’s done. Choreplay can make excellent foreplay.
  4. Cook comfort foods.  Mmm… grilled cheese, tomato soup, chocolate chip cookies, or whatever else you two think are comfort foods.
  5. Good ole-fashioned movie night. Pick a favorite flick, curl up with popcorn, and enjoy snuggling in each other’s arms.
  6. Dance the night away… in the rain together or on your porch or in your living room. The latest thing to do is to find video lessons on YouTube. Find a music genre that fits your fancy, search for a video, and learn something new together.
  7. Story time. Curl up on the couch and read together… not necessarily from the same book. Just enjoy being near your spouse and the comfort of their presence even if you’re silent. OR Pick 5 different random objects from your house, stick them in a paper bag, and ask your spouse to pull out each object and tell a story using these objects. (My family did this as kids or during the holidays for fun).
  8. Play time. Pull out a puzzle, play a board game, try a game of Hangman or charades, or if you’re ambitious, pull out Twister for your living room floor. You can also add a strip element if you like.
  9. Hands on. No, not what you’re thinking… although… ;o) see #11 Pick a fun science project and do it together. Scholastic.com offers 40 great ideas to get you started.
  10. Challenge of the arcade. Nothing like a little car racing that defies physics or a fast-paced game of air hockey.
  11. Experiment. Try a new sexual position or a new way at foreplay. My latest favorite? Progressive foreplay.
  12. Bubbles! Draw a bubble bath for a relaxing time. Add candles, your favorite munchies, and some ‘hands-on’ fun to make it more intimate.
  13. Check out the local scene. Find a poetry reading at a local bookstore, a concert at a nearby bar, or a comedy show in a basement theater.
  14. Walk in the rain. Or run if you’re more ambitious… and then come back for a steamy shower together.
  15. Dress up without the price tag. Head to the local mall and find crazy and whacky or sophisticated and glamorous (out of your price range, right?) clothes for each other to try on. Take pictures.
  16. Dress up at home. Order take-out and then set the ambiance at home. Pizza? Red-and-white checkered tablecloth, Pillsbury breadsticks, and and some Andrea Bocelli. Chinese? Paper lanterns, jasmine tea, and the Kung Fu Panda soundtrack. Tacos? Sombreros, pinatas, and mariachi music. Burgers? Ketchup, mustard, and a little 1950s jukebox.
  17. Local rec center. Our rec center offers full access for $4 for residents and $6 for non-residents, giving us access to the lap pool, lazy river, slides, kiddy pool, hot tub, steam room, basketball court, weight room, and even a climbing wall.
  18. Progressive dinner. Start at one restaurant for drinks and appetizers. Head to another for soup and salad. Eat the main course at yet another restaurant. Finish the evening at your local coffee shop, ice cream parlor, or even at home for dessert. My suggestion? Eat small portions.
  19. Couples night. Invite some friends over for dinner and a movie or a card game. Hospitality tips? Set the table before the guests arrive even if you aren’t ready with dinner. Set out an appetizer (chips & salsa, breadsticks, veggie platter, crackers and cheese). Offer a beverage (with ice water always on hand). If you’re not ready with dinner, it’s okay to invite your guests into the kitchen to help (or this is when Adam gets to entertain). Create (ahead of time) a playlist of relaxing instrumental music for background ambiance.
  20. Artistically inclined. Pull out the paintbrushes, cover the table or floor with newspaper, and paint. You can grab inexpensive canvases on sale at Michael’s or another craft store, or grab a painting kit. You can also pull out crayons and pick up coloring books from your local dollar store.

Date Night Ideas from Becoming His Eve Photo Credit: satit_srihin from FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Update

I apologize for the late notice. My sister is visiting this week so I’m taking an unplanned week off from writing on the blog to prepare for her arrival and to enjoy our time together while she’s here.

Blessings!

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