Congratulations, lady friend! You have completed the 30 Dates in November 2013 challenge. Thank you for embarking on this journey with me to intentionally love your husband and grow in your relationship with God. I am so privileged to have written for you. This is a great accomplishment for you, dear lady friend. Blessings to you in your marriage!
Some of you wrote to me and expressed how hard it would be to complete the challenge in November. I encourage you if you’ve missed days or haven’t started at all to do so in the month of December or January and beyond. I, myself, was unable to complete every single day so I’m looking forward to intentionally loving my husband more in December. If you do decide to continue on or haven’t started yet, please let me know when you decide to do so. I’d love to partner with you in prayer and to keep you accountable. Please email me – email@example.com.
Now that we’re done with the month, the temptation to go back to the way things were will be HUGE! Don’t give into temptation! Stay strong and keep actively pursuing your husband and loving on him intentionally. I have a host of other posts here on the blog to inspire you. I encourage you to stay deep in God’s Word. Learn to love His laws and teachings. Keep seeking after the heart of Jesus. Don’t give up praying. Pray without ceasing, my sister in Christ, and encourage other women in the faith to do the same. Love is an action verb. Do it daily! Live it daily!
I did a mini 7-part series on protecting your marriage faithfully toward the end of the 30 Dates Challenge. Here’s a photo for you to post on your social media sites for you to feed all 11 steps of the POMEGRANATE to your marriage.
I wanted to include a list of all the books/resources I quoted throughout this 2013 30 Dates in November Challenge series.
- Song of Solomon the Bible
- Pillow Talk by Karen Scalf Linamen
- 40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate by Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg
- Sacred Pathways: Discovering Your Soul’s Path to God by Gary Thomas
- Cracking the Communication Code: The Secret to Speaking Your Mate’s Language by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
- Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions and participant’s guide for Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst
- The Husband Project: 21 Days to Loving Your Man – On Purpose and With a Plan by Kathi Lipp
- Intimate Issues: Conversations Woman to Woman – 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
- Affaircare- a community dedicated to committed, godly marriages and offering redemptive help after an affair.
- Peasant Princess Series on Song of Solomon by Pastor Mark Driscoll of the Mars Hill Church
- How to Have a SMART Marriage from Marriage Life Ministries
- Do You Have S.M.A.R.T. Marriage Goals from Black and Married with Kids
- Wives Who Want More Sex and Aren’t Getting It from Julie Sibert on Intimacy in Marriage
- In the Bedroom by Erin from Mystery32 on decluttering your bedroom
- Praying for Sexual Intimacy by Jennifer from Unveiled Wife
- Deciding Your Boundaries and How to Spice Things Up Without 50 Shades of Grey from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum
- Controlling Sex from One Flesh Marriage
- Are You Afraid of Intimacy? from Journey to Surrender
- Five Ways to Sustain Sexual Freedom in Marriage #1 Believe and #2 Silence Outside Voices from Do Not Disturb
- 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief from Hot, Holy, and Humorous
- Awakening the Super in Your Man – my series of guest posts on Pearl’s OysterBed
- Sacred Pathways of Walking with God – guest post series on BHE by Sword4Sail
- A Twist on Twister from Love Actually
- Be Mine Valentine - my Pinterest board
- I Fall For You Gift Basket from The Dating Divas
- Date Night – my Pinterest board
- Love Your Honey – my Pinterest board
- Sex and Intimacy – my Pinterest board
Here’s the links to all the posts in the 30 Dates in November Challenge 2013 series in one convenient location.
- Intro: 30 Dates in November Revamped: Planning to Love Your Husband Purposefully
- Intro: Help! I Can’t Do a Project for 30 Days Straight!
- Intro: What About Sex?
- Intro: Are You Ready for Change?
- Intro: If You’re Doing the 30 Dates in November Challenge…
- Intro: Last Minute Encouragement
- Why Are You Really Doing This? Day 1
- What Are Your Sexpectations? Day 2
- Breaking Free, Day 3
- Give Yourself Permission to be a Sensuous Woman, Day 4
- Invite Him Home, Day 5
- Talk Him Up, Day 6
- Laying the Foundation, Feeding Your Marriage, Day 7
- Communication His Way, Feeding Your Marriage, Day 8
- Personal Worship Connection, Feeding Your Marriage, Day 9
- Reclaim Sensuousness, Day 10
- Catch Up, Day 11
- Feed Your Man, Day 12
- Appreciating Your Man, Day 13
- Strengthening Your Home, Feeding Your Marriage, Day 14
- Give the Fruit of Love, Day 15
- 5 Ways to Infuse Joy in Your Marriage, Day 16
- Is Your Bedroom Peaceful?, Day 17
- 4 Ways to Better Understand Your Husband, Day 18
- Extending Kindness in the Bedroom, Day 19
- Doing Your Husband Good, Day 20
- The Most Important Step in Staying Faithful in Marriage, Part 1 on Faithfulness, Day 21
- Say YES to Sex, Part 2 on Faithfulness, Day 22
- Zealously Protecting Your Marriage, Part 3 on Faithfulness, Day 23
- Guard Your Mind, Part 4 on Faithfulness, Day 24
- Staying Accountable, Part 5 on Faithfulness, Day 25
- Avoiding Temptation, Part 6 on Faithfulness, Day 26
- Unhealthy Relationships, Part 7 on Faithfulness, Day 27
- Rejoice with Thanksgiving, Day 28
- Spark the Thanksgiving Romance, Day 29
- Transform Your Thinking, Day 30
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I highly encourage you to go back and re-read Day 1‘s goals. What were you initial thoughts and emotions about the challenge? What were your goals? Did you reach your goals? What still needs work? What was the best part of the challenge? What part did you like the least? How can I improve the challenge for next year or what would you like to see next year? How will you continue to love your husband intentionally? How can I pray for you and your marriage?
In the month of December, I’ll be taking time off of writing to focus on my husband, family, friends, and God. There will still be a few pre-written posts so please keep following the blog and social media sites. I just won’t be online quite as frequently.
Have a blessed Christmas season! Keep the sparks alive!
Adam’s Eve (Hannah)
Tomorrow is the last official day of the 30 Dates in November Challenge! Congratulations for making it through the month of intentionally loving your husband and growing in your relationship with God. I don’t know about you, but this month has been intense. I’ve seen a lot of growth happen, and a lot of growth that still needs to happen in my marriage. I’ve been incredibly blessed to write for all of you. Thank you for embarking on this journey with me.
Today’s 30 Minute Challenge (Nov 30th): Transform Your Thinking
Guard your thoughts and words. Philippians 4:8 says to think about things that are… Pick 1-2 of these to work on today.
True - What do you truly love about your husband? Tell your husband one true thing you love about him today.
Noble - Do you exalt your husband in your thoughts and words? Pick one of the following things to do today. Karen Scalf Linamen, author of Pillow Talk, shares 7 ways to exalt your husband:
- Treat your husband at least as well as you treat your friends and colleagues. Treat your husband with the respect and dignity you give your friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and even strangers. “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31
- Let your tone do the talking. You may be saying “yes” to sex with your husband but your tone is saying “argh! not again!” or “let’s get this over with,” and you might as well be screaming, “NO!” Use a loving tone and communicate respectfully, even if to speak unpleasant words. “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Proverbs 16:24
- Watch your body language. Communicate love and respect to your husband through gentle touch. I often hold Adam’s hand when talking about something I’m upset about so he knows that I still love him. When I start to get frustrated, sometimes I just give him a hug. Offer him the gift of touch. “Let his left hand be under my head and his right hand embrace me.” Song of Solomon 2:6
- A little appreciation goes a long way. Express appreciation even in the little things. There have been many times my husband is stressed out when he comes home from work, and I show him I appreciate him by giving him a massage, offering to do something he enjoys, or reminding him that he’ s loved, and this has made all the difference in his mood. “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a kind word makes him glad.” Proverbs 12:25
- Admire his manly features. Gaze upon the love of your life. Tell him what you like about his body. Affirm the traits that set your husband apart as a man. Meditate on his body when he’s not around. “How handsome you are, my beloved!” Song of Solomon 1:16
- Don’t be funny at your husband’s expense. We live in a world where husbands are often the butt of dumb jokes. Just watch a sit-com for five minutes and you’ll probably hear some comment about a lazy, incompetent, bumbling husband. But this is not what God has called us to do. Your husband’s heart is precious. Don’t wound your husband by using destructive humor. “Set a guard over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3
- Perspective can make the man. Karen writes, “effective exaltation isn’t rooted in the things you say [but] in your overall attitude.” Look at your husband through the lens of Christ. “The God who created your husband knows that you are married to a creation of inestimable worth and value, ripe with potential, a melting pot of skills, gifts, and abilities,” she writes. Love your husband by practicing an attitude of respect. “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” 1 John 4:7
Right - Micah 6:8 says, The Lord “has shown you what is good [right] and what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.” Think about a way to exercise fairness, mercy, and humility in your marriage today.
Pure – As I shared on Day 24, Impure thoughts hinder your prayers, make you unclean, and lead you to destructive behavior. That’s why you have to ask God to daily search and purify your mind and heart. Pray Psalm 139:13-14 for your marriage today.
Lovely - In Psalm 84:1, David writes, “How lovely is Your dwelling place, Lord, Almighty.” Invite Jesus into Your presence and focus on His lovely heart today. If you haven’t been doing Day 1′s Take it a Step Further challenge, start today. Read through the Gospels and get to know the heart of Jesus. Look at how Jesus interacts with people. Start with the calling of the first disciples and healing the leper, the Samaritan woman at the well, the bleeding woman & the dead girl, or the woman who anoints Jesus.
Respectful - Disrespect starts in your thoughts. You may be thinking, “Well that was a dumb thing to do so I must punish him,” or “I deserve better.” Wrong. It is not your place to punish him when he’s hurt your feelings or made you angry. It is not a matter of what you deserve but a matter of what he deserves – your respect and submission. Devote yourself to prayer about your thought life. “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.” Proverbs 16:3.
5 Minute Marathon
Write out today’s Bible verse – Philippians 4:8 – and pray the verse for your marriage.
Lord, I lift up my eyes to You for help. It’s so easy to think negatively about things in my marriage when they aren’t going my way. Forgive me. Lord, transform my mind. I want to think true thoughts about my husband. Bathe our marriage in truth. I want to think noble thoughts. Help me to exalt my husband in my thoughts, words, and actions. I want to think right thoughts. Help me to exercise fairness, mercy, and humility in my marriage. I want to think pure thoughts. Purify my heart and mind and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. I want to think lovely thoughts. I invite Your presence here, Lord. Help me to dwell on You. Help me to to love my husband like You love me. I want to think respectful thoughts. Help me to respect my husband even in my mind. May my thoughts be pleasing and honoring to You. In Your Name, Amen.
Take it a Step Further
Keep a thoughts journal for the next month. Write down one thing you are thankful for about your husband every day. Journal your thoughts. Keep track of the things you tend to dwell upon – good and bad. Pay attention to your emotions toward your husband. Write down your prayer requests and include answers to those prayers when you see them. Write down your reasons to praise God. At the end of the month of December or in early January, use your thoughts journal to write down praises and prayers for the new year, and to make resolutions – things you want to see changed in 2014 in your thought life, emotions, marriage, or relationship with God.
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How do you guard your thoughts? Share one good thing about your husband today.
Today is Day 30 of the 30 Dates in November Challenge. This post included revised parts from Respecting the Marriage Bed, Part 2. See related posts – Guard Your Mind, Extending Kindness in the Bedroom, Do I Delight in Evil?, Think on Things of God, and Put Sin to Death, Part 1.
Look through some of the suggestions I recommended for Thanksgiving Day and Black Friday from last year. You can easily split this challenge between the next 2 days. Have a wonderful and blessed holiday!
Don’t buy into the commercialism of Black Friday. Make today all about celebrating your marriage, enjoying each other’s company, and having fun!
Today’s 30 Minute Challenge (November 29th): Fellowship
- Start a Thanksgiving tradition together.
- Snuggle together and watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade together. For every commercial break, get up and stretch your legs, give each other a big hug and a kiss (and if no one else is around, throw in a little makeout session). Or for every commercial break, tell each other one thing that you are thankful for about the other person.
- Get up a little early and make your honey a yummy breakfast for two to tie you over until dinner. In my family, pumpkin pie cinnamon rolls is our newest tradition, but you can try out some of these other yummy autumn treats on my Pinterest board.
- Buy or make each other a Thanksgiving card to reflect how thankful you are for your wonderful spouse. Write love letters to each other, letting your spouse know he’s your perfect gift!
- Build spiritual intimacy. Worship together. Sing songs about thanksgiving like We Gather Together , For the Beauty of the Earth, and Praise God from Whom All Blessings Flow. Read Bible verses about Thanksgiving. Pray together and thank God for His many blessings.
- Let your husband help you cook. Two in the kitchen is far more fun and romantic than one. Have him pick out some music to listen to while you both work. Dance a little in between stirring and mixing and baking. Steal a smooch or two as you set the table together.
- If you have a fireplace, throw on some logs and let them crackle. Kick off your shoes and snuggle on the couch or the floor for some post-meal chatting while sipping a glass of wine or curling up with some hot cocoa or cider.
- Go on a nature walk together. Stroll together arm in arm and enjoy the solitude.
- Make Christmas wish lists. Include suggestions for activities, projects you may want to tackle this holiday season that you’ve never done before, or ways you want to love each other and be loved by each other.
- Pick out a Christmas devotional to read together once December starts. Begin building holiday spiritual intimacy. Purpose to make “Christ” the center of your “Christmas” season.
- Sleep in and cuddle with the one you love.
- Go ice skating…even if you don’t have the greatest balance. Ice skating can be incredibly romantic, and you’ve got a partner to catch you if you start to fall… or perhaps one who will join you and your rear on the ice!
- Go bowling or find indoor mini golf. Challenge your honey to a game of air hockey or skee ball.
- Volunteer at a local organization – a soup kitchen, a retirement home, a homeless shelter. Start the spirit of the holidays off right by serving others for the joy of the Lord!
- Visit a local museum or an art gallery. Find a favorite piece or display and tell each other why you like it so much.
- Play tourist.
- Do something artsy together. Find a local craft place that lets you make your own art like glass blowing, pottery painting, or watercolors. Or pull out your art supplies and make art together at home.
- Go on a coffee date and grab a seasonal drink. Toast your loved one!
- Bake Christmas cookies.
- Pull out board games and challenge your honey and all your relatives to some ridiculous wacky fun.
- Go cut down your own Christmas tree together if you can. Bring it back and pull out all your holiday decorations. Hang up Christmas lights. Enjoy decorating your home with holiday decorations, and smooch under mistletoe.
- Pack up leftovers from your Thanksgiving meal and bring it to a lonely or elderly neighbor. Bring a Christmas card with you and take a few minutes to talk, to brighten their day.
- Head to a gym together for a workout. Work off all those rich foods you ate together. Challenge each other to a laps contest (in the pool or on the track) or to a sweaty game of basketball. Come home and hop into a steamy shower together. Don’t forget to massage all the “good parts.” Your husband will appreciate it!
- Work out at home with a Wii Workout or Kinect Workout. Take turns picking an sport or activity for the other person. I particularly like the dance workouts. It’s a chance to have some fun, burn some calories, and get a little wacky.
- Visit a local zoo or aquarium together. Take advantage of guided tours and free movies. Don’t forget to pick up a fun souvenir for each other in the gift shop.
- Visit a planetarium. Enjoy the splendor of the heavens. Or bundle up, grab a thermos of hot cocoa, and lay out in your yard to take in the sights of the skies.
- Toss around a football or a frisbee in the front yard. Get that blood pumping and breathe in the crisp autumn air.
- Enjoy some freshly popped popcorn, snuggle on the couch, and watch a movie together at home. Or pick a holiday flick in theaters, hold hands while waiting in line, and don’t forget to steal a smooch or two on occasion. It’ll remind you of your dating days.
- Go to a concert. See a symphony or ballet. Check out a local band at a coffee shop or club. Support the local arts.
- Go to a Christmas tree lighting ceremony. Enjoy the magic of the lights, the carols, and the start of the holiday season!
Lord, I praise You for my many blessings. Thank You for my husband. Thank You for the intimacy and love we share. Help us to remember the importance of doing things together. I pray today we would enjoy fellowship with You, each other, and family/friends. Amen.
Take it a Step Further
Surprise your husband with Thanksgiving or Black Friday sex.
- Whisper in his ear at Thanksgiving dinner, “Darling, I’d like to show you just how thankful I am after all the guests are gone with a celebration evening (or morning) of pleasure and intimacy.” Or you could write this message in a card, and slip it to him in the morning. That’ll have him anticipating all day.
- You could incorporate #’s 12 and 7 in this if you like – sleep in the day after Thanksgiving. Build a fire and/or light candles. Research says cinnamon, pumpkin, and cranberry scents are supposed to stimulate the senses and put you in the mood for sex, perfect for the opening of the holiday season.
- Decorate the room with autumn decor, or lead a trail to the bedroom with autumn leaves.
- Put on some red, orange, gold, brown, and/or golden yellow lingerie to be especially festive. Or if you’re really adventurous, try incorporating a pilgrim or Native American outfit.
- Make your room extra comfy with plenty of blankets, pillows, and low lighting.
- Grab a bottle of wine, sparkling cider, or champagne and toast the one you love.
- Hand feed each other Thanksgiving leftovers.
- Treat your lover to a relaxing back massage.
- Try out one of these fabulous ideas from the Romantic Vineyard.
- Kiss him all over and in between each kiss share a reason you’re thankful for him… or compliment his body parts.
- Of course, end with making love.
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What are some of your Thanksgiving traditions?
Today is Day 29 of the 30 Dates in November Challenge.
Adam’s and my first Thanksgiving together was pretty crazy. My sister had come for a visit, so it was just the three of us.We tried to do a fabulous brunch with the parade, and then the big dinner. Unfortunately, since I had never prepared a whole Thanksgiving dinner by myself, we had no idea how to time everything. We didn’t end up getting dinner on the table until 10 o’clock at night. Still, everything tasted wonderful, we had lots of laughs, and my sister and I even managed to pull of a decent presentation of all the food.
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I love the food, family get-togethers, fellowship, and fun. I love the tradition of watching at least part of the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade over breakfast. But most of all I love another opportunity to be reminded of how blessed I am and how great my God is.
As Thanksgiving is tomorrow (although this challenge gets posted 1 day early), I will keep today’s and tomorrow’s posts brief.
On Sunday, my pastor gave a wonderful sermon on Giving Thanks. You often hear “I’m thankful for,” but do you ever hear “I’m thankful to?” My pastor said it this way: “Being grateful is being thankful with a person attached.” Everything we have comes from God. Everything we have is built on Jesus Christ because without Him, we have nothing. Jesus Christ is our Chief Cornerstone – the central point of our lives. Without Him, everything crumbles.
It’s okay to be thankful for things, people, places, events, etc, but we have to remember to whom we are thankful – the God of all the Universe.
“Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. Every good and perfect gift is from above,coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:16-17
You could attribute your gifts and blessings to your own hard work, luck, your opportunities, and your risks, but in all truth, none of that would’ve happened without God. Don’t be deceived. Every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of Light.
This year, be thankful for and thankful to your Lord Jesus Christ!
Today’s Challenge (November 28th): Thankful For & To
*We did this exercise during morning worship service last Sunday, and I loved it so much I’m sharing it with you.
Fill in the blanks. Write 1-3 things in each category you are thankful for, and then finish your time in prayer. I highly recommend doing this exercise with your husband, or your whole family if you like.
- I’m thankful for the mundane… the little things in life that you normally take for granted (i.e. toothbrush, technology, car, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for the extraordinary…the big things in life where you witnessed/experienced the miraculous blessings of God (i.e. work promotion, marriage, birth of a child, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for the hard people… the people who have been difficult in my life, either through which experience I grew in my relationship with God or I learned something important (i.e. over-critical boss, strained relationship with a parent/child, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for the thing that didn’t happen… something that should’ve happened or might’ve happened and didn’t (i.e. an accident, job loss, an affair, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for the people in my life… the people that love and support me unconditionally (i.e. my husband, my children, my parents, my siblings, my church, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for answered prayers… where God has answered the cries of my heart (i.e. health, savings, improved relationships, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for unanswered prayers… an area of my life where I prayed for something and didn’t get it and God gave me something better or protected me or taught me something important (i.e. a move, job, new home, etc). Thank You Jesus!
- I’m thankful for the unexpected… something I never saw coming that has been a wonderful blessing (i.e. a new friend, money to pay bills, a gift from someone else). Thank You Jesus!
I praise You, oh most glorious Father of lights.Thank You for never changing like shifting shadows do. I have so much to be thankful for – and I want to remember who I’m thankful to – You, Lord Jesus Christ. God, I am so thankful for… (fill in the blanks or use the above exercise as a guide). Thank You for my husband. Lord, I pray that You would help us (fill in the blank). Thank You for blessing me this Thanksgiving. All praise, honor, and glory to You, Amen!
Take it a Step Further
Make a list of 10-15 reasons why you are thankful for your husband. Hand write it on a piece of pretty stationary. Give it to your husband on Thanksgiving. (You can also have it framed if you’re feeling more ambitious.)
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What are you thankful for and how can we praise Jesus with you?
This post is Day 28 in of the 30 Dates in November Challenge.
Special Note: If you and/or your spouse has committed adultery, please seek professional Biblical counseling. Visit Affaircare, a community dedicated to committed, godly marriages and offering redemptive help after an affair. Today’s post is the conclusion, Part 7 of a series on faithfulness – see parts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6. This series is not intended for those of you who have been victims of rape, abuse, and violence in and/or out of marriage. Please seek professional help!
Ask Your Spouse to Step In
If you find yourself in a situation you can’t handle, ask your spouse for help. These scenarios may include but aren’t limited to flirting, harassment, sexual propositions, bad-mouthing, belittling, etc. After I’ve told someone to kindly back off and they don’t, or they don’t understand what the harm is, then I ask my husband to speak on my behalf. God designed our husbands to be our protectors.
Extricate Yourself from Unhealthy Relationships
Sometimes you just need to cut someone out of your life, or take a break from the relationship. Your husband is the most important person in your life. I’d first recommend prayer and having a conversation with your spouse if you’re having an issue with someone. If you are in a relationship with someone who isn’t respecting you or your spouse, especially after multiple attempts to converse and fix the situation, you need to preserve the health of your marriage and protect your spouse by removing said person(s) from your life temporarily, and in some cases, permanently.
How to Talk To Your Husband When He’s Flirting with Temptation
Sometimes you might see something your husband can’t. How do you discuss this?
Karen Scalf Linamen writes in her book, Pillow Talk,
Things are going smoothly and you are confident your marriage is as safe as it can be from dangerous liaisons. Then one day you see, hear, or sense something that triggers a red flag, and you strongly suspect that one of your husband’s relationships is not as neutral as it should be. You’re confident your husband is not having an affair; he may, however, be flirting with temptation. What do you do?
The worst thing you can do is freak out and accuse him, as this is alienating. Instead…
- Always begin with prayer. Quiet your heart and take your concerns before the Lord.
- Alert your spouse to your concerns rationally and calmly. Use a gentle, loving tone and affirming body language.
- Affirm your commitment to the marriage. Let him know that you love him and you’re committed to your marriage.
- Acknowledge your spouse’s commitment to the marriage. Express gratitude that he chose you and has remained faithful to you.
- Assure your spouse that you aren’t jealous and that he hasn’t done anything wrong yet. This is especially important if he becomes defensive or angry. Let him know you have nothing to be jealous about since he is with you, not someone else, and you are confident you both can work through this. Let him know that he hasn’t done anything wrong, and that you are just bringing up your concerns because you love him and want to protect your marriage.
- Agree to tackle the problem together as a team. Invite him to join you in finding a solution to safeguard your marriage.
Today’s 30 Minute Challenge (November 26th): LOOKOUT
Pick one of the LOOKOUT challenges from yesterday and practice it today.
5 Minute Marathon
Make a quick list of the relationships in your life. Pray over this list throughout the rest of the month and ask God to show you any areas (online/in person) that are negatively effecting your marriage. Ask Him to give you a game plan strategy for addressing these issues.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! I praise You for desiring relationship with me. Please help me to honor You in my marriage, online activity, and relationships. Help me to honor my husband. Make me aware of any relationships that may be negatively impacting my marriage. Protect me from temptation. In Your Name, Amen.
Take it a Step Further
Read Matthew 4:1-11. God allowed Jesus to be tempted so we might have a specific example of what to do when we’re tempted. Recognize you have the authority to tell off the Devil and defeat His lies because Christ, the Living Word of God, lives in you. Spend some time today praying for God’s authority to equip you, God’s strength to endure, and God’s wisdom to know the difference between truths and lies in your life and marriage.
This post is Day 27 in of the 30 Dates in November Challenge. This post is the conclusion of a series on faithfulness. See related posts – The Most Important Step in Staying Faithful in Marriage, Say Yes to Sex, Zealously Protect Your Marriage, Guard Your Mind, Staying Accountable, and Avoiding Temptation.